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Frequency of Sex

koolman
koolman
How often do you people (in steady relationships) need it (and get it)? I'm trying to get a feel for various age groups, should I happen to meet someone I like who likes me...

When I was 21, I was obsessed with sex, because it was new, and I could've done it 3-4 times a day (thank God my mom didn't find me wanking off). Now, at age 43, I'm cool with once every other day; I could probably wait a week.

I don't want to be too boring for someone, and I don't want to be a total freak that scares her away either...
deleted_user
deleted_user
My H and I do it every 2-3 days, used to be alot more but with the kids, it's hard!

(no pun intended, but still funny)

I'm 38, H is 40 and we've been together 21 yrs. Never tire of each other (at least not in THAT way!)
koolman
koolman
Wow, sweet.
deleted_user
deleted_user
kind of opposite with me. i could care less about sex when i started out. it got to be ok. now that i am older and single i have a sex drive that no one can keep up with. i am not bragging, its a curse. several times a day might satisfy me.
koolman
koolman
sweet: Wouldn't be close to 40, would you? Is it true women hit their sexual peak at that age?
deleted_user
deleted_user
Quality over quantity is worth considering :-)
deleted_user
deleted_user
I'm 42 and I have never wanted sex more than I do now. I only see my bf once a month and sometimes more so when we're together that's pretty much ALL we do! He's coming to live with me soon so I'm wondering if that drive will slow a bit.
koolman
koolman
Quality over Quantity: That's true, daggy, but some people are more horny and need more quantity than others, so it's an important consideration.
koolman
koolman
linsy: I read your profile. Congrats on finding a man who not only lights your world on fire sexually, but is financially well-to-do as well! Has money and does mind spreading it as well as his love on you. Financial freedom certainly helps my sex drive--no cares (except for each other, as it should be), no worries!
deleted_user
deleted_user
LOL! koolman, he isn't well off.
In fact he's going to have to find a job fairly quickly when he gets here. I don't care if he gets one not making a ton of money. His income will simply "help" keep my stress level down.
He does rock my world in more ways than one and I'm very excited about finally being able to see him every day instead of once every other month.
deleted_user
deleted_user
The stbx and i didn't have it very frequently when we were doing well as she couldn't possibly match my drive :( Now that we're seperating ,it usually is few and far between even as our days together are really numbered now. We still have it when the mood hits us, such as late last night :) I can still have it easily once a day. It will be really cut down when we split up until i get my fwbs' established or if we happen to hook up for an occassional booty call.
blue3rose
blue3rose
Well when I was younger I wanted it about 4 times a day. Now that I am older,and have had kids. I have noticed my sex drives come in cycles. I'm sure that sounds weird but its true.
deleted_user
deleted_user
If it were up to me.....every day...maybe every other day.
flutterbyfly
flutterbyfly
3 words for ya Kool -

EVERY FUCKING DAY!!!

That about says it all!
tossedaside
tossedaside
#13 says it all
deleted_user
deleted_user
three thumbs up to what Jenn says
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