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I am a 33 year old sensual woman who enjoys sex to the nth degree. My question is do you prefer women to be aggressive or submissive? Are you the one who usaully initiates sex or is it her? I am the agressive one in my relationship. I feel if I didn't initiate it, we would never do it. I'm also very agressive in bed, but at times I would enjoy being submissive. I have discussed this with my husband but he's so excited to have an agressive and passionate woman that he seems lazy to me when it comes to taking the lead. I even waited a while to see if he would come on to me because I thought I wasn't giving him a chance because I was always pouncing. That didn't work either. Are all guys this submissive and want to be on the bottom all the time? I like being "on the bottome" and I love doggy style, yet all I end up doing is woman on top. He says he likes the view - it turns him on blah blah. What do ya'll think?
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well personally i like women to be pretty forward and if the dudes i know/have met are anythin to go by alot of if not all men do.... position is down to preferance as much as anythin but most guys seem to enjoy if not prefer "woman on top". Bottom line is as above though, most guys love a forward woman :)
Dunno if thats any help to ya...
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a lot of help. ty Alatar for responding so quickly!!
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np, i'm like ASDA me, always happy to help heh
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well i love both, i love for a woman to take charge and lead the way,but sometime i love to lead the way and spoil her as much as i can. i also love changing up on the postions as much as possible b/c there are alot of things you can do when you can
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got a point there, variety is the spice of life after all :)
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there are day when i just want to do as much as i can to show her how much she means to me and have it have nothing to do about me, just her and her body
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yeah i have to say it can't be all one way all the time, instead of just waiting for him to take the lead and initiate maybe you should put it to him that you want it the other way round every now and then. some men don't get subtle i'm afraid heh
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yeah some guys need to be ran over by the great big HINT bus of life every once in a while
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Is it the same when you have to "TELL' your man you need to take the lead and that I'm tired of it. I've said it before and he tried it, but it seemed he was jus doing it for me. I know.....I'm a toughie.
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not sure why he just does not want to take the lead, maybe he is worried that he would not make you happy??????
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could it be he's just not confident or sure in taking the lead? i know telling him to take charge is pretty much the same as taking charge yourself lol so i guess it's up to getting him to drop it on ya spontainiously one day, if it's a confidence thing then he just needs to know you aint bothered about that and practice makes perfect :)
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never thought about me taking the lead by "telling" him to take the lead lol! But that's true. Maybe I'll just act like it doesn't bother me and go on about my business. Thanks ya'll!!
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well i suppose acting like it don't bother ya when it does aint a great way to go.... depends how much it bothers ya i guess. Aslong as he knows where you stand though then the balls really in his court
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some guys don't feel comfortable taking the lead, or being the dominant type. afraid he might hurt yu or something
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We like to mix it up. Sometimes I take the lead and sometimes she does. The only thing that gets in the way of doing anything at all sexually is having a 12 and 14 year old in the house. By the time we get done with our day, we're beat.
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