Many men have said to me before 'it's not the size it's what you do with it' and to be honest I agree. I have had crap sex with a boyf with a large penis and fantastic sex with a boyf with a rather smaller penis. I feel sex is about emotion and connection as much as anything else. There is much more to sex than penetration. Hope this helps some. x

It doesnt matter the size.Its what you do.There are many positions that work fine whether you are big or not so big.Plus it should be about the intimacy and feelings too.Not just the size of your penis..

I'm pretty small too and it used to concern me when I was younger and had only been with a few women. Since I've been divorced and began dating again, I've been with several women, and none has ever complained about size. I'm sure there are a few women for whom size is important, just as there are a few guys out there who have super large, porn style dicks. May they each find the other and enjoy themselves. But what your last girlfriend said to you was indeed hurtful. She's entitled to her own needs/opinions but what she said to you was insensitive and unnecessary.

I have been with a man that was not that big and some men that were. It depends on the emotion that goes on and what else is happening at the time of intercourse. If you are confident it will radiate and she won't think about it. Don't think about what your ex said. She was rude and uncaring. If a women who is flat asks her boyfriend if she is flat he doesn't go right out and say she is flat. I am sorry she hurt.

I'll be honest, you have to be willing to expand your repertoire if pleasing your partner is a priority.

I had a friend who's ex was so big it hurt her because he'd hit her cervix. I had another friend who's lover's penis was essentially non-functional but could bring her to multiple screaming orgasms because he knew where/what/and how to stimulate her g-spot and clitoris *simultaneously*. (Gotta love opposable thumbs.)

Also, if you are open and willing to discuss options without becoming defensive, it'll make it easier for her to bring it up. Are you willing to try a penis sleeve/extender? Did you know they exist? Are you willing to use toys and dildos on her without becoming threatened by them. When was the last time you practiced cunnilingus?

I have been with average, decent-sized lovers, some of whom have rocked my world repeatedly in one session and some who have not. It all depends on their attitude, willingness to be a "learner" and experiment until you find what works, and desire to make their partner's satisfaction equal to their own.

Your partner should make you feel adequate, and if you are with someone who really loves you...then she will. There are ways around size and anyone can have an orgasm if doing the right things during sex no matter what your size is.

Matters not sir.
Only to shallow women.
My husband is only 5 inches long, but 5 inches in diameter...thats what feels good.
aslong as its not a needle, most wont ever complain.

Not long enough for what?
To be honest, even the longest/thickest dick isn't necessarily going to hit the right spots - that's what fingers or a good curved vibrator are for.
Until men evolve enough that they can do that 'beckoning' motion with their dicks, size is never going to be that much of an issue either way. Hope that thought at least made you laugh!

Don't think it matters much truthfully... it is about the passion.

I am pretty small "down there" and have a hard time with anything larger or longer than a couple of fingers. SO I definitely tend to shy away from big ones unless I am REALLY stimulated a lot first and we work up to it slowly.
I agree that there is MORE to sex than penetration!

Sapphire is right. There is soooooooooo much more to sex than penetration. Oral sex both vaginal and anal as well as G-Spot and clitoral stimulation take place long befiore my cock ever enters my wife. By the time I'm ready to go she has already had several orgasms and I'm rock hard. And as far as size goes don't let yourself get psyched out man. Your last girlfriend said you were thick enough which from my experience is more important than length. So unless you're like 2 inches thick and only 2 inches long I really don't think you have anything to worry about. I'm very average myself, about 6 inches and my wife and I have an incredible sex life and I have no problems whatsoever satisfying her. Actually she can't take much more thah 6 inches in length so I'm just right. Some women can take on long cocks and some can't. Your old girlfriend obviously could and likes to have someone who is longer, but that is no reason to put you down the way she did. She was being very mean plain and simple and she should be ashamed of herself!!! Move on and forget about her. You'll find someone who will be the right fit for you so no worries okay? Take care and God Bless.

The average size is 5-7" and 1 1/2" thick. This is a perfect size for me. I'am small and my husband is average. My sister is small also and from what she tells me her husband is huge and she hates having sex.
Maybe your last girlfriend had a vagina the size of a cave.

From my opinion its what you can do with it not how big it is. Seriously if its a ft, but you don't know what to do with it you're still up a creek!
It's not just about penetration. You have to give each other some attention befor that ever occurs!
What you need to do is go into situation thinkin, "I've got this!" A lack of confidence is probably bringin u up short also. B/c ur in the wrong mind set!
I can't talk 4 all women but I happen to like a man who oozes with confidence. You can see it all over them! Man does that turn me on!

I agree...being too large is not enjoyable for the woman. you want to feel the thickness but being too long....sucks! i also hate it when i cant go down all the way during a bj - does something to a woman's self esteem when they care about being great at that :)