No, personally .. i have not had that experience .. I do find .. however .. that once a certain comfort level is established between a lady and her man .. that the inhibitions can be brought down .. in time ..

Things that have wored for me .. in this avenue ..

1) read erotica to each other ..
2) read erotica, and paper clip the parts you like best .. to share with your partner
3) get used to be comfortable in your own skin ..
4) take time to explore each other .. completely and erotically .. so that you both know all the spots that turn each other on ..
5) share fantasies together .. no need to fulfill them .. just talk about them .. and what turns each other on .
6) dress up for the occasion
7) take on the attitude of exploring ..

Just a few thoughts .. I hope they help .. I am no expert .. just a fellow struggler ..

In kind caring

Ray

I don't drink often, but I do like to have a couple when my live-in bf and I have "date" nights. Even though we usually do it sober (and often), I find that a little bit of liquor makes us a little bit sillier on our special nights.

I don't drink big quantities because it makes me sick though. I am the cheapest drunk ever.

I dont drink often either but hubby knows when i do have some drinks be ready for some lovin...It makes you much more comfortable and not so shy..

DRINK enough to please you, but not to much.This will spice things up, you are up for more exotic things under the influence.Don't get trash , but enjoy the evening cumming will sober you up.

Umm no I don't seem to have that problem...my boyfriend can't really perform too well if he's had too much alcohol though. For me the more I drink ((well as long as I'm not feeling sick)) the easier I am to please. I agree with MRMARLEY. Drink enough so that you can feel good.

why not get a good buzz, then have them go down on you, have another drink, by then you will want to receive a good pounding

Ironically.....The guy I tried to have sex with this weekend had that problem. We had been drinking and he fell alseep.....can u imagine how mad i was. Now..im trying to figure out if i should give him another chance or not.....sober of course. lol.

Raynow.i love ur advice!!

I'm not a big drinker at all...but...sometimes if I'm a bit nervous, drinking a couple of glasses of champagne helps me shed some of the uneasiness I might be feeling. I like to keep the lights low..being able to see the beautiful man I'm with...so sometimes the champagne allows me to 'keep the lights' on. I've never been crazy drunk...so I have no idea how I would perform...and the guys I date better NEVER be too drunk to pleasure me...if he knows what's good for him.
HEE HEE..(meant that in the nicest of ways of course)....

YEP, IT CAN BE TOUGH.

I am same just go and go. Cannot cum just fuck.

Yes, Yes, and Yes. I wish I had advice but Im with you needing it or answers. Thank God for you I dont feel like the lone wolf on this. You described me in you post.

I forgot to add that I am female. Have (or had as of this week) a boyfriend and I loved when we went out and had drinks and spent that time together then we would have a great nite like you said I would be lees inhibited. We did also have good sexual relations without sometimes but it was not always or often. I always felt like I was missing something or not as into it or distracted. Alot of it was how he was with me in the relationship too. Hurt me we fought about sex all the time and he would not give me emotional needs in the relationship. That explains that but it is not the first time I have felt so clammed up about sex I never had an "o" and I was self conscious about not doing the right things too. But with my bf I got past the insecurity for the most part but sometimes I felt no passion even tho he is exactly what I want physically. I feel like I will never be able to participate in good sex just be on the outside wondering what it must be like to really get something out of it. I am so sad about this now after me and the bf pretty much fell apart I feel like I will be even worse next time. This is so ironic to say, but I feel Totally Fucked!!!!!!!!!

I don't have that problem.

Raynow nailed it on the head...

Yes, I have the same problem...I love the feeling a few drinks gives me, but it ALWAYS makes it difficult or impossible to orgasm...
I think it's probably that drinking dulls your senses...including your sense of touch, which would effect that.
Sort of how you can trip and bust your butt when drunk, but not really feel it till the next day and sober.