Le Bump

I think we all have an opportunity to change and reverse most of those stages making it quit possible for a relationship to not have a life span. As long as there are not issues in the relationship that we dont have control of. But just typical stress of life causing these stages of love to develope are very controllable if you choose to work on that relationship. It is a full time job and it takes two employees... both have to work... but boy are the benefits great!

relationships will change if you don't do all the little things you did when your love was new. Believe me, I know.

You have to really put forth an effort. If you just feel like you aren't in love anymore, then it is only fair to the other person to tell them how you feel, and see if things can change.

Just wondered if people found that in time all things die. I realise as BP Asperger etc thi might be to normal a site area if so my apologies

Seems like a trend that many couples believe is true...

If you believe in your mind and fear already that it is true or will happen, then you are already a statistic for relationships that fail.

Phenylethylamine (PEA) is a brain chemical that works like a natural drug. It stimulates attraction for up to four years.

Researchers are now calling it the 5-year itch. Cut and Paste and Google:
"Five-year Itch: New Danger Point for Marriages"

So when PEA wares off, you have to really like the person you are with. People can get wrapped up in that brain drug and confuse it with it being something that the partner is responsible for and so when it wares off people still unduly attribute fault the other person. But it's nature.

So you need to treat your partner as your best friend rather than the one responsible for your PEA BRAIN.

Intimacy is a skill. It is learned. It is a behavior. Behavior is a decision. And sometimes you have to decide that you are going to unlearn the ways that don't work and learn the ways that do. Intimacy requires a maturity that some people are too childish to recognize. But behavior is modifiable!

i think relationships last as long as you work at them...when you get lazy and cant be bothered then the relationship slowly dies.

Relationships can last a life time .. it all takes work .. from both parties ..
Some days .. one partner works harder than the other .. those things R normal ..
4 us .. we both work .. cuz .. we were both in bad relationships be4 .. but don't wanna go there again .. and yeah .. we're gonna make it ..