I feel awkward on top as well. If I'm on top and not facing him (porn star style), I get tired, my legs hurt, and I feel uncomfortable. If I'm on top and facing him, I feel more self conscious, like he can see everything bouncing and fat flubbering around up there. I have never been able to finish in that position either.

What I used to do is be on top for a little bit and then switch up positions. That way it's sort of a compromise- you get some of what you like, he gets some of what he likes. He might like the way it feels at that angle- if that's the case, you might be able to make him happy with a different position altogether than what you guys normally do. Grab a kama surta and highlight a few things that look interesting- that way it will mix things up but might be a bit more comfortable for you.

At the end of the day, remember that your husband loves you a lot. He wouldn't be asking for you to be on top if it didn't feel good for him, you had no clue what you were doing, or he didn't like the way it felt/looked. So try to let go of some of those inhibitions.

Its not my favorite but I do it when my husband wants me to.I feel self conscious too but he seems to love it.He wants me to do it so I guess he likes the view..Talk to your husband and tell him how you feel about it.

I felt this way at first too! But now me on top is one of my favorites! For numerous reasons 1)i feel like i am in control, which i like, 2)i am much more apt to orgasm in this position. i can have multiple orgasms now while on top!!! 3)the guy thinks its very sexy! and the LAST thing he is thinking of is your imperfections. you will look beautiful up there :) and if your worried, try turning the lights off for the first couple times!! i hope you can learn to love this!!

I feel the same way.My boyfriend loves it,but I feel so clumsy and stupid when I'm up there.Besides,it doesn't even feel good to me.

Shoegal is so right. If your guy likes you up there then he is NOT thinking about anything but how sexy and awesome you are.

One thing that is super sexy - at least to me - about a woman on top is that it's like she's using me to get herself off... like I'm her hard stud, her boytoy or whatever.... so don't think about pleasing him when you're up there, just do what feels good to you. IMO that's 99% of a guy's satisfaction level anyway (that is, seeing you enjoying yourself).

I love just lying there and being hard for my girl. Makes me feel so masculine and studly while she uses my cock for her enjoyment.

OMG, its the best. If you're feeling nervous, have a cocktail and relax! Its the best, you have control! Steer away! Just do what feels good, he'll like it. Sit straight up and arch your back, lean back, he'll go nuts! Good luck! I think once you do it you'll want to do it all the time! You can have your best orgasms on top!

I so agree with Sally .. my experinces have been great with her on top .. and .. yeah I love it .. I can touch and fondle anything .. and that is so hottt too ..

When we are in the love making mode .. I don't care what I may or may not look like .. just trying to please her .. and me ..

Just try to keep in mind that most men are very turned on by seeing the woman that they love receive sexual pleasure and the woman on top position makes for a great view for the man.

I used to be very self-conscious as well. Sometimes it helps to wear a sexy bra or top, something that you feel hot in. This is such a great position for having orgasms, a lot of direct stimulation.

You are not weird and obviously you care about his feelings or you wouldn't be asking for advice. You don't really have to know what you're doing, just slide around, trust me, he'll enjoy it.

I wish you luck and I hope that you will eventually be more comfortable in that situation.

I know it can seem intimidating but just imagine yourself in an X-rated movie. It works for me.

I love being on top...I prefer it actually. I can have multiple orgasms and my partner is loving it too. And Sally is right - sit up and arch your back...

i feel the same way like i'm going to ride him wrong or something and me and my boyfriend have excellent chemistry so i kni=ow whatever o do is good but i think all women are afraid of being on top your not alone

Not all women... :)

Maybe I'm the weirdo here, but I love it on top, it's the easiest and fastest way to get me off (other then oral)! I find that I can't cum if I'm not on top anymore?! Is that weird or is he just doing things wrong?

Oh sweetie u just gotta tell him how u feel u feel like your being watched and judged right?? He will tell u how great u really are then u just need to rock that shit!!! Dont be afraid this is your husband!!!! He knows your body, if he begs u its cuz u do it right!!!! If u didnt he wouldnt even ask!! GO FOR IT!!! Plus its just great!!!

I agree with secondtimemommy, he wouldn't beg you if you didn't rock it. If your worried about him judging you, do it in the dark. Actually thats the only way I can do it period, top bottom anything. In the dark. Or, something you can try and my husband loves it, blind fold him. It intenses the feelings. He can't see you so all he has is touch and sent. Kink it up a little bit, and once you don't feel so self consiceince(i can't spell it either haha) you'll be able to enjoy it. It does turn guys on, because its almost like masturbation, we aren't technically touching our selves, but we use the guys to make ourselves feel good. I was the same way and I love it on top, you know what you like and you can get yourself off faster. Hope you can learn to enjoy it!