you read different opinions, medical findings, or just suggestions for the process, but they are not always sensitive enough, or have enough sincerity when you are considering the action. i read about whether or not people like it here, who does it and why, etc but i want to know about tips, procedures, help aides, stimulants, ideas, positions, speeds, anything that will help make that intimate time more relaxed and successful. i've not had anal sex, and i'm not saying that i am going to, but i am not going to say that i won't. i just want to be as knowledgeable about it as possible - and sometimes the web or books at the dirty store just don't offer what i need. i know about protection, i know about the needed trust, but i want to hear about other frustrations or worries, and how they were overcome, or if not, how the situation could have been handled differently so that the experience was pleasurable... thanks!!!