Meeting new people is almost always fun and rewarding, so yeah, you are missing out on life by not dating.

I can tell you firsthand that your sexual performance won't decrease after 30. However, if you want kids, you'll want to marry a woman who is still relatively young. I have friends who are trying to have kids, but can't due to age-related fertility issues.

You don't have too many flaws to deserve a woman. If you wait until you don't have any flaws to date then you will probably never date. Everyone has flaws so just get out there and start asking women out. As far as you being a virgin, there is noting wrong with being a virgin. Sex is wonderful but it is so much better when it is with someone that you love. There is nothing wrong with waiting until the right one comes along.

Nicely put Wilson.I was a virgen until 23.I'm proud of it.I waited until I felt it was appropriate.

NOT AT ALL! I waited until I was married to have sex and that was at age 32. I do not regret it at all and you will not either. It was difficult mind you but well worth the wait. Now I cannot get enough! My sexual desire has only increased and I never thought that would EVER be possible being as I am also bipolar and hypersexual. I say wait and don't just take the first woman that comes along. You will be sorely disappointed. Unless she is bipolar too....only kidding!!

I'm in almost the same position as you. I'm 31, a virgin and have never so much as attempted to ask a woman on a date. I'm also very shy, have very low self-esteem and self-confidence and get a similar feeling of not "deserving" a girlfriend. Like you, I feel that I've missed out on life but I don't believe finding a girlfriend would be the solution to my problems. It would be a wonderful, life-enriching experience but to me it's not the answer. I never want to get married or have kids so that's not an issue. I know that if I were sensible I would just forget about it but I'd like to experience at least one relationship and considering that I'm in my 30s now, the sooner is the better since it only looks more pathetic the more years you add to "-old virgin"!

You're still in your 20s; you're still young. Like another poster said, don't just take the first woman who comes along. Make sure your first time is something special, whether or not it's when you get married. As far as sexual desire decreasing after 30, I'm probably not the best one to answer that since I've never had a super-huge libido. However, I've probably been "hornier" this year than any other because I've finally decided that I want to start down the path of actually trying to make a relationship a reality. In years prior I had just ignored it as something I would never experience but for various reasons I have renewed interest in it.

I think some of this pertains to your experience. I've met a lot of people online who are in the same position as we are. Good luck to you.

I don't think that is pathetic. I don't think being a virgin is the complete reason you feel you are missing out on life. I am not a virgin and I can tell you I still feel I am missing out on life.