YES. I have been friends with this girl since we were 10 years old (we're both 28 now). Every so often she disappears for a while, because she's got some new friends that are "cool", then comes back when they've had enough of her drama. I always wonder why I just accept her back, no questions asked. She's not the best friend to have. She's EXTREMELY self centered, none of my other friends like her, and her disappearing act is so lame. So why? She's fun.

Sounds like your friend gives you some definite ups & downs.

I guess why I stay with my friend is because he's the only friend I have a history with, who knows me, and who likes hanging around me. Friends like that don't come around often in my life. So, when I do get them, I can't take them for granted. At the same time, I don't like being taken for granted either. Long story.

See, I can't even say all that good stuff about my friend. She's recently trying to edge her way back in, I think mostly out of guilt. Our ten year high school reunion was coming up, and that was the only reason she contacted me. Through that she found out I'd just ended my nearly 5 year relationship and I was about to have a hysterectomy. She was worried I was having it done for a reason like cancer or something, so ... I think that's why she's trying to get back in again. I'm not sure I wanna fall for it this time. I have these two other friends that I've been friends with for 7 and 9 years, who are WAY better than her. They're the only friends I need really.

OH YES!!!! I have been friends with this girl since we were born.. our parents were good friends.. she and i have been friends then not friends.. growing up she disowned me for boys and just ditched me alot.. i had called her up when my mom was dying and she was to busy to come see me.. fast forward to know and we arent talkign really anymore.. it goes up and down.. a week ago we were talking but now she has changed and back to old her ways.. i told her im not doing this again.. iam older and dont need drama. it hurts but what can i do ..

It's definitely frustrating when other people can yo-yo with your emotions like that. I know, you just get to a point. I'm in my 30s, and I've had some time off to think about how I was being yo-yoed around, and I just can't tolerate what I used to now that this friend's back in my life. I try to some degree, but I'm a grown woman. I think I've grown up in the past couple years. You can only take so much hurt. Then, you have to recognize & try to keep these people from hurting you & see how others get treated & demand respect & at some point try & demand that respect for yourself. Frustrating. That people would have this kind of affect on us & not even realize or care to stop it!