I don't really need advice - maybe just some input on the subject? My boyfriend and i were together for 5 years during and after college. We moved in together for 2 years and it went downhill from there. Everyone was pressuring him to marry me, i was unhappy cause i felt like i was giving all that a wife would but with no committment on his part. I broke up with him and spoke to him only a couple times for a year. I dated other people, worked on alot of my issues, and became more of a whole person. I never stopped loving him and we got back together last October. this past year with him has been absolutely wonderful. It's like a whole new relationship! But this time we 'chose' each other instead of 'doing what everyone else was after college'. He doesn't take me for granted and i give him his space and allow him to make the effort to come my way instead of always being up under him. We don't live together which is also helpful in establishing our new boundaries. Since June his mom has told me he's talking to his dad about a ring. She would say things from time to time and he's started talking about houses and we talked about what we both expected out of marriage. All good talks and he even met a guy that owns a jewelry store, who he told me - was going to 'hook him up'. Great! So now it's December and all my old feelings are coming up. i am scared we will get in the same rut we were. i am scared he'll be happy just being like we are instead of taking it to the next level. I had a talk with him before Christmas about the subject and it went well. But i am having trouble trusting him off of what he says and what other people say. I feel like the only way i will truly know that he's serious is when he does it. But i don't when that'll be. i'm getting pressure from family and friends like - are ya'll married yet? Our relationship is great and all my rational thoughts tell me it's only a matter of time, but all my insecurities are telling me to put my guard up and get ready for being hurt. ahh!!
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