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I have to add.. the relationship all together got physicial. I also hit first and hit back. The one thing I do defend is that I never felt violent or had any violent thoughts towards him or another human being before our relationship and before he hit me that first time. I am NOT at all in any danger. We live with his family and the entire family, unfortunately is well aware of the situation considering the noise and the yelling. He doesn't beat me but we do knock eachother around pretty hard sometimes. Either way it's an aweful unhealthy siuation to be in and I realize we'll do no good for eachother continuing on this way. So like I said, I know what the right thing to do is, I'm just scared. Not of him.. but of me alone.
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I have been here before, a long long time ago and now I am back.Forgive me for not just saying what I want to say,even under a triple dose of antidepressants it is still raw and seeping and I am hesitant at revealing it as at least under the bandages around my heart I don,t have to look at how raw and wounded.My child was cleaved from my heart by his own actions. my child of ten,turning eleven...
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
I know it's probably not what you want to hear, but I think you should swallow your pride and go back with your mom.
I know there's problems there, as well, but you really should get out of your current situation NOW!!!! Like, 'right this minute' now.
Once you get back to your mom's, you should get some therapy. GOOD therapy, and that's not always the kind you find, when you first look. Find someone you feel you have a good fit with.
Being alone is something that you shouldn't be quite so afraid of and you probably need to explore that a bit and thereby learn how to tolerate it a bit better.
Mind you, most people DON'T like feeling all alone, but sometimes that's how it is, so it really would be best if you could learn to feel a bit more comfortable about it. You won't be so dependent then. Being dependent makes us tend to tolerate unacceptable behavior, as you are now finding out.
Even if the physical abuse doesn't get any worse than it is now (and ANY is too much, really), the longer it goes on the crappier you will grow to feel about yourself.
I wish you the best of luck, whatever you choose to do!!!!
Take care!!!!
I would also suggest joining the Breakups and Divorce Community on DS. That might help you cope with the fear of being alone.
Personally, I might never have made the choice to be alone but I am surviving it; in fact I'm thriving! Best thing that ever happened to me. But, then I'm not REALLY alone and neither are you.
The violence had to stop, I mean getting chased round the bedroom more than three times is getting real close to an olympic discipline.
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