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Tough Choice

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Im 15 and my boyfriend is 16. Its going to be our 4 month anniversary on christmas eve. But the thing is we havent "done" anything. Weve only held hands once. He put his arm around me once when we were watching a moive. And everyday he treats me like a friend. no different. I wanted him to go to my first 10 mile race but he said he wanted to sleep in. He went with me to a clay aiken(XD) concert and the next day he was telling a *girl* friend that he hated every minute of it and he almost fell asleep twice. When there was an open seat next to me he sits next to somebody else. But other times he will remember a little thing i said along time ago and its sweet and he will pick out songs saying he likes them and there songs about relationships and all that. I dont want to break up with him because i really like him. its just that everytime he ignores me and talks to another girl *or boy* i get so angry! i know i have jealousy issues but i think he needs some work to. what do you guys think?
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you are teenagers learning and exploring... talk to him learn to communicate with him if he isn't interested in talking pft let it go there are other fish in the sea.
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well, it's good not to take relationships fast. they are overwhelming. and you probably desire from him lots of quality time, so when he gives to someone else it hurts...keep working on that and work on being secure in yourself....
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I hate to say this ( and chime in with everyone else ) but...

your "boyfriend" is 16. I'm thinking he might not really know how to be a real boyfriend.

I bet if you started getting attention from other guys, he would change. So...talk to other people, be friendly and nice. You never know, you might find someone who appreciates spending time with you and lets you know it.
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omigosh! i remember those days. it only gets better, i swear and promise. i clearly remember stating your same statement to many of my friends. i think it may be time to actually 'dump' him, and just find yourself first. talk with other guys *and girls*, create an atmosphere that is completely right for you. and like everyone has said, he's a young boy, and they mature much, much more slower than girls do. just keep your head up, dear.
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girls mature mentally a lot faster than boys, so he is still catching up to you...take your time...good relationships take time to develop...if he is not totally into you maybe you should talk to other boys you like and see how he feels. boys are not that smart most of the time!!! dont worry it is not you, he is just confused like i imagine you are. have faith that one day you will meet some one that makes you very happy but in the mean time....have a little fun ....but keep a special part of yourself for that special person that will come along.
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