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My husband and I have been fighting a lot lately. We have been fighting all day. I know a lot of it is my fault. I just don't care anymore. I love him, but I hate all this fighting. We have been together for over 10 years. We have these spells every once in a while. I am trying to get through it, like we always have. This time however, I just feel fed up. I don't feel like trying anymore. I want to just give up. I don't want to put my kids through that though. They are 2, 4, and 6. I know if it wasn't for them I wouldn't be here right now. I will probably get ove it in a day or two, but right now I am so angry I could beat him up!
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Sounds like you're feeling this way because you have been hurt. Try to find out WHY you go through these spurts of arguing and then talk to each other about how to handle one another during an argument.
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There is nothing you can do to change your husband sadgirl. If he is angry, there may be many reasons why. If you are angry, that is where I think you need to be focused. I know he is not making you angry, we choose to be so. And it's not wrong or bad to be angry. Anger comes from pain, from being hurt. I'd love to talk to you about this if you want to. I think it is great that you can say so clearly that you are angry.
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I understand when the fighting itself becomes too much to take. Ring the bell and go back to your corners. Try to come to a temporary truce where you two can spend some time apart and cool down. The time to think will probably help both of you filter out the irrational silliness in your heads so you can discuss the real issues between you.
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Have you tried CBT ?
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