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Stereotyping teens

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I think it is SO rude and annoying when someone tells me I'm wrong JUST because I'm a teenager and I "probably have no idea what I'm talking about".

Key word in that sentence: PROBABLY.

I hate when adults who really DON'T know what they're talking about assume I am wrong and make me feel like my response doesn't matter just because I'm 17 years old. What if I am right? What if I know something that you don't? Would you admit it?

Well I'm not just another "ignorant, self-absorbed, angsty, partying teen". I act older than I am. I have more common sense than the majority of the kids at my high school. I have some issues with anxiety and depression and my self-image may be distorted, but that doesn't make me a typical "stupid" teenager who "thinks I'm wiser than I actually am". One of my goals (not a DS goal) is to NOT be a typical teenager; but a self-educated, mature young girl.

There are a lot of teenagers who are like me. There are a lot of teens who do a lot of good. And there are a lot of teens that are probably 10x smarter than some of the adults in this world (well, in America at least).

I'm not trying to say "HEY I'M SMART EVERYONE!" I'm just venting because it gets on my nerves when people belittle me and doubt me JUST because of my age.

I'm not necessarily talking about KNOWLEDGE. I'm talking about compassion, common SENSE and (MAYBE) a little wisdom.

I hate stereotypes and I try to avoid judging someone based on a stupid generalization.



K I'm done.
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Its nice that you have a place to vent. I like your goal. You should never settle for what everyone else does.

I don't think anyone means to make you feel like your feelings don't matter; its hard for adults to remember that we felt the same way you do when we were teenagers.
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I was more mature at 15 y.o. than most adults, yet was always made to feel my opinions were less welcome because of my age.

Ageism was alive and kicking in them days.....it's nothing new :-)
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One thing I noticed...you are very articulate for your age. Your organizational and level of thought amazes me. The teenagers I know do not have the maturity that you seem to possess or starting to possess already.

It's just a stage that some adults go through especially the "older" ones that are not used to being around typical teenagers (for comparison's sake). Continue on with your quest for knowledge and learn to "understand" what these old farts are going through. :)
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Typical teen post. ;)
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Oh hush...you also know of adults who vent out. :)
koolman
koolman
I can tell from your writing that you are indeed all those qualities that you described. And relationships don't get any easier when you get out of high school and trade one kind of external stress (tests and papers) for another (having to make money to keep a roof over your head). Sounds like you've got the "stuff" to survive though--you're pretty tough! Remember how tough you are when guys try to worm their way into your heart to serve their selfish needs (if they haven't already).
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Well, you seem to be a nice girl and I don't think you are a typical teenager, because a typical teenager wouldn't be venting on daily strength and tell all the adults how you feel about how you get treated. I was a typical teenage girl and when I got older I realized how stupid I acted and I tell my nieces not to acted that way but you know how that is when they think they know everything about life, when they just started to feel like an adult. I don't judge people and I am not judging you. I think you are a brave person to come on here and tell everyone how you feel and its not far to treat all teenagers the same way because not all teenagers are the partying type some are smart and intelligent and want a better life for themselves.
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Voin, everytime I see your response to someone, it's always more negetive. You're close-minded, and just to let you know, that kind of pessimism gets you no where. Thanks for trying to be a smart ass at least!
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#8

I like that...a lot :-)
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I have found that age discrimination continues even after the teenage years. My partner is 24. He works construction with a bunch of guys ages 45 to 62. He is more hardworking and can run more equipment than half the guys there, but he is the lowest paid out of everyone, has been refused a raise several times, and nobody listens to his advice simply because of his age. There have been so many times when he has tried to give advice, and they wouldn't listen, and they screwed something up. Then he would have to go behind them and fix it, and they still won't listen to him most of the time. You just have to ignore people. My partner is starting his own business, and as soon as he can quit, he's gonna tell em to where they can shove their job.
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