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Should I be hurt?

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Ok. SO I am sick with this sinus thing and have been for a few days. The man is also sick but newly sick and is acting like he is on his death bed. I think the baby is getting it because he is all out of sorts. We were meant to go to her family's for dinner today, that was the plan and we were set to leave at 2. The baby refused to go down for his nap and she was getting short because she needed to sleep to so I bundled him up into the car and 5 mins later he was out. This was at noon. At 130 I woke the poor little thing up and brought him in to find both of them in bed and she says "oh. I called and canceled it" I am so pissed off that she didn't call my cell and let me know. I wouldn't have woken the bay when it is obvious he needs to sleep, I would have taken a nap in the car myself and I wouldn't have woken them up if only she had called. AM I insane? Should this not bother me? When she does shit like this I feel like a nanny again at her beck and call. Now she has gone out to the supermarket to see if she can find one open to get thanksgiving food which I will without a doubt end up cooking.
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Is there no poly-guidelines to this arrangement ?

Sounds like you are getting all the milk and no cream.

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We never set them up. I am 'dating them' rather than in a real 'marriage' because I am still legally married to a man who doesn't want to be poly. The thought was always that we would date for a couple of years and then if we still wanted each other we would make a permanent arrangement. What has since happened is that I have unofficially moved in and more or less live here full time when I am not at work. (I work 24h shifts). I am officially living with an old work partner and her family and I really like it there but the problem is it is 2 hours drive to work and an hour to school. Here cuts down my commute by half. Also my lovers are more or less supporting me with food/housing etc as I have dramatically cut down how much I work so I can finish school. Its all a bit of a mess. She and I have had this problem off and on for the last 18 months or so, ever since we got serious. She wants to be "first wife" which I am okish with but that is not what he wants, he wants equal partners all the way around and I think that would be better. What compounds this whole thing is she has this entitlement - princess thing going on and it drives me and him up the wall. He says she was like this from day one 6 years ago and, he thought it was cute but got worse when the baby was born and now he can't stand it and has made war over it. I am glad you for one do not think I am insane though!
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I think you have to weigh up wether the 'pros' outweigh the 'cons' and also, does the situation look like improving any?

It's not easy, but I'm sure it will work out one way or another.

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I think you have to weigh up wether the 'pros' outweigh the 'cons' and also, does the situation look like improving any?

It's not easy, but I'm sure it will work out one way or another.

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OOps...there's an echo this evening :-)

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I know, I have tried to do that in the past but I get lost because I am deeply in love with him and feel very much tied to him.
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What about a few days away - see if you can come up with something in a different environment ?

Sometimes it's not possible to see the trees when in the wood.

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I like that idea
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It also gives 'them others' to realise your contribution.

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