I would say that this may be an indication that the relationship would not work. I'm sure that's what you are thinking.

Asking the question here may also be an indication that it won't work. You said he was totally emotionally there for you. But you aren't talking to him about it?

Neither one of those things may apply however. Maybe something came up in his life that he needs to deal with. He may not want to put any of his baggage on you. So, are you there for him?

Then again, it sounds like you may feel that he has somehow breached your trust and you aren't going to let him in again.

These things happen in most relationships. What's important is how the two of you resolve them and move forward into a deeper relationship.

Usually if you sense something has changed it probably has, but maybe you could continue, possibly talk about it with him, see if you feel better about the situation, and if not, well, then you may have a decision to make.....

as soon as relationships get like that they are pretty much over. my girlfriend recently said she needed space to work things out and completely shut off emotionally from me. its the worst feeling ever, but i have to accept it because she really has problems she needs to work out. i would keep your space and if you do decide to go back take it even slower than before. make him show you he is committed

Sometimes, a cake is just a cake. You mentioned that you're living seperatelly so you have that in your favor and you have really only been intimate on the weekends. While that could be a bit premature, it isn't the end of the world. I can speak as a man and say that in my relationship there have been times I've needed to think outside of my respective other, but that didn't mean I was pulling away from her, it meant simply that I needed to think. I wouldn't call for the ring bell on your relationship just yet. Perhaps you should consider what you're doing instead and look at it exsactly as it is. You're DATING! ;) So do what people do when they're dating, go date other people and see what's out there. You're not cutting him off and you'll probably have to explain that to him but you can't be expected to wait in the wings just yet when you're only sharing breakfast. Give him the suggestion to date others as well and in the mean time, be good to one another. There's no harm in shopping around before you make a final purchase afterall.

Time to make your call. It's been a year!! Both of you should at least have a faint clue about the future; at least if there is even one. Ask him directly what is troubling him and if he wants to talk about it, or he needs more time and space to think things over. Make it clear that you'll respect his request and give him space. To be fair to you, he needs to give you a timeframe. I wouldn't suggest you wait indefinitely. On the other hand, I wouldn't date someone else now until I have a better grip on this situation. If he cannot share openly with you at any point, after one year of dating and time-out for soul searching, then it's clear he can never share his heart fully with you. He's just playing the stalling game; avoiding telling you the truth in order to save himself trouble, explanation and drama. Then it's clear, he's not for keeps.

Thanks for the input. We've had some discussion (he is talking to me about it) and he said he thinks he's going through mid-life crisis and right now he doesn't like anyone... his roommate... his co-workers... his alarm clock and himself. I actually feel for him but I've been maintaining my space and taking care of me in the interim. I've pulled back also (it hurts like hell too) and he's coming around slowly. I like the idea of taking it slow this time, it did go very fast in the beginning (that's where I got confused). I've made a decision to stay committed (for my own sanity) and will give him the time he needs and if it's meant to be he'll come around more.