Hello everyone! Recently, I just got married on April 3, 2010 to my husband. We got married after six months of dating. Currently, I feel that I made a mistake by getting married to my husband so soon or period. I hold a lot of resentment towards my husband for many reasons: 1. He did not compromise much on relocating. I relocated from Mississippi to Chicago. I left behind my family, friends, job, and life. My husband if from Chicago and did not make himself free to move due to many excuses such as he wanted his one year old niece to know him, he is everyones' support system, and just did not want to relocate. At this point in time, I am an unemployed social worker and have not been able to find employment here in Chicago. We are living above our means due to my husband moving us in a luxurious but pricey apartment in the Hyde Park area of Chicago. It hurts me that I can not contribute much to the household, I am living off my savings and plus my parents are helping us out. Adjusting to married life and a new area is complicated because I do not have the means to go and learn the city like how I want to. I take opportunities and learn my area by walking and researching the area. I feel like a roommate more than a spouse since I have been married. My husband at times use his depression whenever we get into an arguement so I can feel bad for him. My husband have been getting treatment for depression and anxiety. I believe that my husband have bipolar disorder due to his mood swings and working with clients who have been diagnose with bipolar disorder. I also feel that I can't trust my husband with knowing deeply about me and my past because when we get in an arguement he throws hurtful things about my past up. I am just at the crossroads and we have not been married for a month yet. I am looking for some advice from open and honest people. Thanks!
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