Hi everyone, I was wondering if you could give me some advice. I have just started seeing someone who has MS and I have never really been around it all before. I have some very serious insecurities of my own, and yesterday I think I made a huge mistake, but I'm not sure. I have been hurt and lied to so much in the past, that this wonderful man I'm seeing literally has to reassure me daily that he isn't going to do those things to me. One day last week he said he wasn't feeling good because of his MS, he even missed work. I told him I hoped he felt better, and got some sleep and tried not to pester him. We had an excellent conversation that night after he woke up and was feeling a little better, him telling me how much he liked me and wanted to be with me etc., all very reassuring. We were supposed to spend time together yesterday and I waited until late in the afternoon to finally hear from him. He told me he would get a hold of me when he woke up about what time we were getting together. When he finally got to me at 230 he told me he had just woken up, and that his MS was making him feel awful again. Now going back to the insecurities part...I told him I was sorry he didn't feel good, and then, I stupidly asked him if he really didn't feel good or if he was just saying it so he didn't have to see me. I feel awful now for opening my stupid mouth and saying something so insensitive, but I am also very scared right now myself and I am kind of in protection mode. He told me that he would never do that, and that he is just exhausted, and feels very weak and depressed. Because I know nothing about the disease and nothing I am looking up is really proving to be all that helpful I was wondering if someone could tell me if this is normal? Obviously you don't know if he is lying to me or something, but are those symptoms normal and should I take it personally that he says he "just wants to shut everyone out"?. I don't know what to expect, or how to act really, and I am fighting my own fears right now also. I really like this man and I want nothing more than to understand so that I am never that insensitive again, and so that he can come to be comfortable around me when he isn't feeling well. I am not afraid of what the disease has in store for him. In college I dated a man in a wheel chair who had lost his legs in a car accident and I don't see that part, it doesn't scare me and I am not afraid of what the future might have in store for him, I want to be there to help him, so could you please help me understand so I don't make any more mistakes? He is such a wonderful man, he deserves better than that from me.
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