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So this is my first post on here, but I'd appreciate it if anyone could help me out. My boyfriend of about a year and a half just moved out a couple weeks ago. He said he still wanted to be together and figured a little bit of space would help us work on things. We'd been having problems,and I knew it, but at least I, if not both of us were too chicken to really face them. So he moved out, even though he knew I didn't want him to, which caused a lot of hurt feelings on my part. But I was still willing to work on things. At first, I kept telling him I hated him, because the anger at him for moving out was so strong, but he was understandably getting frustrated when that was all he was hearing, so I did my best to curb my attitude so we could move past that. We have been talking every day since he left, and I think actually talking more than we were when we lived together. But in the past couple days, it seems like to him,I'm the only one who has to work on their issues, and when I really want to talk and tell him how I'm feeling, he can't deal and starts getting angry. I'm starting to feel like a piece of gum he's trying to shake off of his shoe. He's never been like this before, it feels like he changed in a week. So for right now, I'm trying not to contact him, I'll wait and see what happens if and when he calls me next. I'm hoping because this behavior hasn't been going on for more a day or so, that maybe he does just need some breathing room. But I'm scared that it may be more than that. Sorry this is so long :) Any advice on my screwed up situation would be great- Thank You! and P.S.- he's never cheated and right now I don't have reason to think that he is, though I could be wrong- just so that's not the first conclusion ya'll jump to

deleted_user
Hi and welcome, Not to sure here?? Space?? (personally I do not know how people can grow together apart) like it says together, apart!! Just be yourself. That is who you are and if someone falls for you being yourself then you have it made. Maybe??

deleted_user
I've been in your situation before where out of no where they start act different and distant, and I'm sorry because the feeling sucks! When we would resolve the situation my boyfriend would tell me that he did just need some time to himself. I don't think he is cheating on you, I think maybe he does just need some space.. and you are doing the right thing by just waiting it out and seeing how things go. Good luck.
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