I have had this boyfried for almost 4 months and it seems we have issues. Maybe I am expecting too much I dont know. Anyways, he is 39 and has never been married but was once engaged to a girl. He broke it off with her over issues they had. I know he lived with one girl but they broke up because she had issues as well. I dont think he has had any more besides that just one and off relastionships. I met this man online and we did seem to hit it off. He dont have kids and I have three while I am in the middle of a divorce as well. He seems to really like my kids and they like him. All was moving along and then all of a sudden he backed off. We were seeing each other on Saturdays after 6pm and I thought that was strange. Sundays were reserved for him and his friend to watch sports. I wanted more time and we got into it and then we broke up. He said that I was putting preasure on him to see him more and he could nto offer that. We ended up making up and then now I go down to his house every Saturday and spend the night and part the day sunday. Thats all I see him. Which, I am happy with that time becausue we do get to see each other sometimes through the week if we having something goiing on that we invite the other too. Not often but we still do get to. The thing Im unhappy wtih and I do feel really stupid and childish about is he has this friend that is single and of course he just about stays single because he dont know how to commit beyond girlfriend and boyfriend. They hang together all the time and watch tv, and drink some not much, and goes on trips together. He dont call me but they do call each other. I suggested the other day that me and him go on a trip together and he ok but then yesterday AFTER i suggested the trip his freind text him while i was with him and he wants to go to an amusment park with my BF next month for the weekend! I was shocked because I asked first. He hasnt said what hes going to do but I think he will go with him instead. I text him and ask him if he had plans tonight becasue I was going to be in his area (which he lives 45 min away from me) and if i could stop by for a m in. He said that his friend might come over for mixed drinks. He didnt say I could stop by but I took it as he didnt want me too. That upset me very much and makes me feel like he is doing something with his friend...does it sound like he is or are they feeding off each others lonelyness. This man is a total nerd and I dont see anyone ever being with him but I feel like i come second and his friend comes first. I know he has know his friend all his life and me less than 4 months...am I wrong?
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