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My story if anybody cares to read :)

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My boyfriend and I have "technically" been together for almost 3 years now. Last February we had broken up what seemed like for good. So we moved on with our own lives. I started going out all the and hanging out with all different people. I was having a blast! And I was sure he was doing the same thing. Over the months that went by we talked occasionally. However, at this point I had painted a pretty ugly picture of him to friends, family, and co-workers so none of them really liked that I sometimes talked to him. So anyways Christmas came and I was really starting to think about him and we ended up contacting each other on Christmas day and telling each other how much we missed each other and blah blah blah. So we decided to start hanging out again maybe seeing if we could work things out (just without my parents, friends, or coworkers finding out.. ha). Currently, it is going really great! I'm so happy to be back with him, my parents do know and are fine with it. Not many of my friends know and I am still hiding it from my coworkers :/ I hate that and I hate the fact that our relationship used to be great and now we have to hide it from people. Sorry it was so long but I just needed to that out and see what others had to say. :)
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Thats kinda like my story, i get myself all worked up to leave him and i tell the truth but of course there are 3 sides to every story (mine, his and Gods or the truth some say).
I think you may care a little to much what others think. This is your life that you get to live once, if you let others get to involved they can sway you to much. Im trying to personally learn how to not share as much stuff, because for awhile I wasnt even thinking for myself (friends did it for me).
So I would just say see if you guys can make it work, and maybe mention to those opposed to him that you talked to him a bit and hes been nice, casually. And they could warm up to him again.
:)
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Thank you! That is what I have been told before that maybe I care too much of what other people think and I shouldn't. If we're happy than that is all that matters, right?
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Hopfully we all care here!! Good luck!!
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That is all that matters, I believe people have a right to tell their story, and their side, and if people really have a problem, just remind them that you were venting and probably made somethings sound worse than they really were. And that were all not perfect and you have made mistakes too. As long as he didn't hit you or anything people should understand that and drop it.
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You only have to be accountable to yourself. It is likely that your friends will be happy for you when they see that you are happier in this relationship.

Be true to who you are, and don't keep things like this from them. Good luck. :)
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Don't ever think no one cares, we do. I know what you mean. My hubby and I had a huge fight and I thought we were through. Explain things to my mom and I thought she would never forgive him. She did though and gave him another chance.
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We always bad mouth our partners to friends and what not.. then they don't like him cause he was put behind the eight ball before anyone got to know him. Their is always two sides to a story. good luck to you guys.. Let your people know you have reconciled.. It is possible t find love after a bitter breakup.. It happens all the time people get back together.
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Thank you everyone! Your replies have really put certain things into perspective for me and has given me a little more courage to just go out there and tell those people that don't know.
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I've had that same sort of deal a couple of times. If you do care what others think, and you did paint an ugly picture, then repaint it. Explain to your friends and coworkers how you were feeling, why you said what you did, and etc.
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