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My husband stresses me out! He is always concerned about me, but I am a 36 year old grown woman. I try to talk with him about my issues, but he just doesn't seem to understand.
What do I do?
What do I do?
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
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I don't understand either. What are you trying to say?
Ithink she means that she appreciates that he worries about her,, but she is a grown woman and is basically looking for her own individuality!
Am I right Julia?
You do know that when somebody doesn't understand you, that you're not communicating well? It may not be their fault.
If he has a strong different view of how you should feel about the worrying ie: "he thinks you should feel loved" he wont register it, he will just want you to understand him - so you need to be firm about your actual feelings not just express frustration. ie: "I feel - smothered / patronized / disrespected / fathered ect...
Also try asking him why he worries - it might give you some insight on how to actually lessen the need arising in him to do so.
Just some thoughts - i'm no expert though, clearly!
Good luck.