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At the boyfriend's house I must follow his rules 100%. He won't let me clean anything or do anything for him. He revealed the Sargeant/Private scenario to me over the weekend. I nearly walked out on him but he told me, "If you don't like it then don't call." That stopped me cold from walking out the door and I sat down. When we are apart I always want him back so bad. It is a rare thing but we truly love each other. He had a stroke @ age 27 and was raised on a farm and both his parents were marines so it's not like he decided to be an ass himself. I just really love him and feel I'll do anything to make it work. I don't feel following his stupid rules is such a big deal. He does have anger, depression and controlling issues but he never calls me names and never physical. Is all this worth it in the name of love?
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I have been here before, a long long time ago and now I am back.Forgive me for not just saying what I want to say,even under a triple dose of antidepressants it is still raw and seeping and I am hesitant at revealing it as at least under the bandages around my heart I don,t have to look at how raw and wounded.My child was cleaved from my heart by his own actions. my child of ten,turning eleven...
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Has anyone tried these supplements? Do they give MGers more quality of life by improving memory and overall well being?Thanks!Barbel
What has been put into their minds will always be there!
I have many good friends who are Devil Dogs, my X is a devil dog. I have a good understanding of devil dogs!
As well as a big soft spot for them. (not cos of my X but cos of my good friends)
I think what you're missing is that you feel like there may be a lack of intimacy there. And you might want to realize that this may only be a perception on your part. There may be something in his past that causes him to not allow himself to rely on others for help. But he may have resolved this to his satisfaction too.
My suggestion is to quit thinking of it as "his rules". You may really like them if you accept them as part of him. His way may make him feel more secure. And everyone has the right to feel secure. He's not trying to punish you.
Go at it from a different angle and see if you can get the intimacy you want by other paths.
Your life, and your choice, and everybody has their good and bad points, and their "little ways". But if it turns into abuse and bullying, or putting you down, or dominating you all the time, or not allowing you to be you, then that is where it is too much and needs to be recognised as such.