I don't know really, maybe it is because men think of sex every 2 minutes (apparently) and need that relief.

I am pretty sure that he doesn't compare you to the women in those films.

Have you talked to him how you don't like it?
Does he watch them openly in front of you?

My OH watches them occasionally, it has never bothered me, because I know he knows it's not real sex.

I think it is just the way they are, men love porn, they love sex, they are visual creatures and like to watch these kind of films, you should never feel insecure though because they still love you for who you are and they love your body too they just love watchin the films too, its nothing personal, if you could get your head round it maybe u could try watch one together, you may find you can have some fun together, instead of thinking - i dont like this its making me feel insecure, think to yurself, mmm i like watching this , yu may grow to like it and may like yourself even more

I have watched them also and no he doesnt watch them all the time. But what hurts the most is I offer sex and he doesnt want it from me but that

If he wants to watch porn, rather than have real sex, I think he may have a problem tbh.

Its been since our daughter died. Its like he is trying to get away from all the reminders of her. I just dont know what to do

Avalanahe is right--men do think of sex all the time, but so do women. We just do it in a nice way. As for feeling insecure--I dont think you should feel that way at all. I watch naughty movies at times and its actually to learn something new. next time sit down and watch it with him and ask him what did he like about it and try to mimmick that position or movement. I cannot stretch myself the way they do in those things, but I have learned and bounce and do little things my man loves

thats the hard part with me. I feel like sex and marriage is so sacred and its only the two partners in bed not other people

I'm so sorry you lost your daughter, maybe he is scared of you having another baby and it happening again?

SORRY i didnt realise that he doesn want sex with you, thats a totally different thing,then, if hes not wanting sex with you when or after watching it, maybe he does have a problem and may need some help, have yu talked tohim about it or asked him if he needs help ? you will have to be sensitive tho men are funny about getting help for themselves

well first off... and i figure this is both a good and a bad thing :P
But, it is not you.
If your husband is doing this it means that he has a porn addiction.
He would rather live in a fantasy than relaity(as all addicts do)...
I suggest you find some information online about how to go about it now.

normally i have no problem with porn in this instance he seems to be escaping from the reality of your loss and the chance of having another child and loosing it again probably scares the crap out of him. councelling can help both of you.

maybe it is a battle with reality. which is understandable in the situation. But how do you approach a man that wants you to just go away sometimes

thats the other thing he wants to have more children and I dont. not yet anyway

Reguardless if he still has sex with you or not. I believe it is wrong. Even thou' it's a movie it's really women he's watching;and getting turned on by them.
If my husband has to watch that-then I would believe that somehow He's not getting what he wants from me.
I know "it's a guy thing". that is their excuse. To me it is wrong- period!

sounds like he's trying to fill the empty space in his heart. when you are ready you'll have another