My boyfriend of 3 1/2 years is going through the Sheriff's academy. He is loving and caring during the weekends and distant and cold during the week. We had a great relationship prior to him starting the academy. He was care free and always was supportive and understanding about my stresses and worries. Now, he is stressed out and worried about failing but why does he have to take it out on me. I turn to him in times of need, why can't he do the same. When he calls he doesn't ask about my day or how I am feeling. If he does, he says "I am sorry baby," and that is supposed to solve everything. I am trying to understand that this is a stressful time for him and that I can't always have him around to talk to but if I call him upset about something, he makes me feel like I am interrupting him and he doesn't have time for me. Then later he will call me before he goes to bed, ask me if I want to talk about anything and then as I start to say something he begins to fall asleep. Family and friends see how I am struggling with his mood changes, his grouchiness, and stress and believe that I would be better off without him. I don't want to end things with him, I believe things will get better when this is all over in a few months. But I still am dealing with feelings of lonliness and neglect. Any advise is appreciated? I want to make it work with him, I want to be the support he needs but I want him to understand that no matter how difficult of time he is going through, I still need him to be supportive and there for me.
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