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Is anyone else here in one? My boyfriend and I are and boy, is it tough. We met this past summer while he was working at school and I was finishing up my classes and graduating. He's from Altoona (out near Pittsburgh, PA) and I'm from Philly and living there now working. Now, I'm not one to normally get mushy, but he's the only person I've ever loved and I think he's the one, so I don't want to give up on this, but it's extremely frustrating to love someone and not be able to see them much. I was wondering if there was anyone else on here in the same situation or has been in a similar situation that could give me some suggestions on how to make this easier, etc. It would be greatly appreciated!
koolman
koolman
I was e-mailing a girl who I'd never met in person in Indonesia once; does that count? We kinda hit it off, but the "long-distance" thing was frustrating, and I didn't want to get her over to the States on a "fiance visa" when we hardly knew each other, so it didn't work out...
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WEBCAM thats my only thought on this subject.
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Now there's a thought !

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me iam in a long distance relationship. me and my boyfriend are in a long distance, when we hit the 2 year mark, my boyfriend said he was moving , it was hard, i haven't seen mine since september, its hard, but the important thing is to keep in contact, if you don't do that, your relationship will fall, me and my boyfriend are hanging on by a thread, if you need to talk iam here!
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Now where is my webcam !

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deleted_user
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I've tried the long-distance thing a couple of times. 3 months seems to be the record length of the relationship (unless you count the one I had 12 years ago that I discovered was married after almost a year!) It's hard maintain because of the added expense to see each other, the planning that's involved (can't just spontaneously drop by)... not to mention missing the other person almost constantly. I wish you luck.
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You only get out what you put in :-)

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deleted_user
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I should have did a long distance relationship, sounds so simple :)
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I appreciate everyone's advice.
Unfortunately, last night we broke up. The strain of it all was too much for me, especially the direction my life is going. Thank you again, though.
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I have had an on line relationship for a year. We talk and cam everyday. I love her very much and she has helped through so much. She inspires me and is my wife in so many ways. We both want to be together and one day one day.
koolman
koolman
Yeah, webcam probably the next-best thing.
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Imagination is essential, uninhibited imagination.

:-)

And a smile, a rather big smile.

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deleted_user
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If you are going to have a long distance relationship, that works, you have to be really good at communication (both listening and talking).

I guess it is harder because you can't always look into the other person's eyes and/or read body language.
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I can read body language within 5000 miles :-)

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CarlaBent
CarlaBent
Well, I guess this topic is no longer going to be of help to you, LindseyH4, and I'm sorry that the relationship did not work out the way you wanted.
But I do want to throw my 2 cents into it.
I am deeply in love with Jagiello and will one day be his wife, and that is in spite of the fact that we've never yet met in 'real life'.
We IM as much as possible and cam for a couple of hours every night. Distance and time differences make it a lot more difficult than we would like, but are not even close to being a deal breaker. In fact, nothing is.
We miss each other without even having been together and we feel like we have known each other forever in spite of the fact that we met (in a chat room) about 19 months ago and have been 'together' for only a year.
We would be together right now if it were not for familial obligations on both ends which must first be met.
We're soulmates, which is wonderful beyond words. We feel like 'home' to each other.
So, in my opinion at least, a long distance relationship is definitely possible.
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