have you tried talking to her about how you are feeling? or ask her why she finds it hard to speak to you about somethings?

for me the best thing to do is ask.....I know sometimes that is hard because you don't want to upset the other person but it is best to talk about it so that you don't get upset......

hugs

Or maybe it's easier for her to write it down. A relationship without proper communication is not a healthy one. If you're fine talking about how you feel, then convey that to her and let her know that it's safe to talk about whatever she is avoiding with you. My bf is not good at communicating and it shuts me down too so sometimes for him to really listen without trying to sidetrack me so he doesn't have to actually talk about an issue...I'll leave him a note. No one interrupts you and you say what you have to say. It's tough being in a relationship with someone who has totally different communication styles than you, but you just need to understand and do your best in communicating with her.

I find it really hard to talk about things too. Especially with boyfriends. I want to explain things but the words just don't come out. And I get embarrassed. So what I do is write. Letters, notes. It helps me get everything out without feeling like I'm being judged. It helps me spit out the entire truths about things. And when the boy reads them, I expect him to talk to me about it. And if HE can't EITHER...he should write too.

I'm the same; I hate talking and my hubby to be has to guess how I feel most of the time. I can't help it, its a built in defense mechanism I've aquired over the years. We randomly ask each other what we are thinking; that helps. And with time, I hope to break down my barriers even further.

Yeh, I have had it happen to me. I have tried to be open to hopefully get her to be open, but I found that was a dead end most times.

Have you tried to ask open ended questions? Open yourself up to her?