
Healthy Relationships Support Group
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I get resentment, that I do 99% of the chores, the kids and go to work, and feel the same as you. If he helped me more, then maybe I'd feel like sex more.
The flip side of the coin, i have found and so have my friends, is that if you have regular sex, then men are more likely to help you out, cos they are happier.
It's a no win situation really - lol.
I feel there may be a contradiction here, a 'lazy' partner wanting sex ?
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Have you any idea how much effort it would take to make a 'lazy' partner want sex, never mind actually do anything about it ?
I think some compassion should be felt here, this 'lazy' partner is obviously trying.
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Maybe "can't be arsed to help you with the chores, but hey, let's have sex!!" would be a better way to phrase it.
Ah, so some parners see sex as a chore ?
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What a dilemna.
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it's not rare.
i find that resentment doesn't help (although i certainly felt it). what helps is going on strike....
or telling hubby "you know, if you could (feed, bathe, pay bills, do laundry, do the grocery shopping, cook 3 times a week) i might be more interested in sex. i don't feel we are partners when you don't help out. i don't feel you care about me when you don't help out."
or going out for a really good time can help with the bonding.......
I apologise, I just have this image of a 'lazy' partner having their snoring interrupted by the other partner who has just finished all the chores and is in the mood for sex !
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If not, you now know how to make sure you get plenty of sex. If you are, then I think you really do need this communities help :)
It does, 'wanting' is not "doing".
Being 'lazy' is not easy you know, it takes a lot of effort to do nothing.
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I think the bottom line with men, women and sex is - say a couple has sex twice a week, this is probably enough for the woman, maybe she thinks too much?, but with a man it is never enough.
Woman 'I have sex twice a week, I think that's alot'
Man 'I have sex twice a week, that is hardly at all'