Someone is always gonna try to hit below the belt. Anyways I don't know what happened so I need more info if possible.

Read the last three pages of the "fair?" blog...

ok hold on

i read them i'm still lost

Yeah - pretty heady, lose your way sort of stuff.

I guess i am just venting my frustration at being bated into a blog conversation with BigBeeper innocently assuming it didn't have anything to do with actually attacking another member of this forum.

I feel that if one is going to use this forum to sort out a relationship difficulty they are having with another member publically, they should be honest about it and state who and what it is really about.

Because this didn't happen i felt conned and manipulated and i am extremely unimpressed that my self and others were lured into that type of dishonest encounter.

I am reasonably new to this forum and i guess my illusions on it being supportive rather than like a highschool yard have been shattered.

Guess it's time for me to grow up and face reality - that people are mean and cruel to each other no matter where you go. I was just hoping this forum was going to be different.

I hope they can find the solution they seek here...

In all fairness, the forums on DS are not moderated. And there's nothing stopping people from trying out new "communities".

I'm not inclined to keep people from any forums. It's difficult for some people to get the concept of certain forums. Healthy Relationships is one of them.

I understand your frustration with being duped. Believe me, it's more difficult for the people that watched the drive-by happen and not attack the shooter. Personal attacks are a no-no anywhere.

All we can really do is try to show people by example and hope for the best. I would everyone on this board would understand that this isn't the place for the curmudgeon or troll to hang out.

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This is true: There are many worse atrocities committed against people than the one i speak of, however i am not speaking of "out there" If i were than this post would be a pretty lame one in comparrison to what goes on in the outside world. I hear you and i do realise this reality.

I am in no way sugesting that anybody should be 'kept from" a forum as i am no judge or jury and it would be unfair of me to try and insight such an action, i am meerly seeking public opinion on how the members of THIS forum (as i am aware there a many many others to choose from), feel about using blogs to underhandedly attack another.

I could be out of touch, but i think it is a topic that is relevent and should be up for debate - as it is obviously an issue that is presently associated with this forum.

I'd have to say "No" on the topic by the way:)

I am new here, and correct me if i'm wrong, but does this have to do with the *fair* post?

I read thru most of it, pretty intense stuff. I feel like i have just stepped into a war zone. Is it always like this here?
In aswer to the question, no it doesnt seem very healthy or fair, their was a lot of anger expressed in that *fair* posting, and i agree with you rijati, it does seem a little manipulative and nasty.
any way, what do i know really, i've only been here for like 5 minutes.

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I think attention seeking is worse.

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EVERYONE is here for attention - that is obvious, other wise this site would not exist.
PUHLEEZE!

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I am here because I have a PC.

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yer, and using it as a tool to gain attention.
Duh!

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To communicate with. Why else ?

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