he's greeting you, prolly tired

Yes, he is tired when he greats me...some of the IM's are at different times during the day and can be pretty racy...:)...but in this past week...I have not spoken to him much at all...I think it is his work, but I am not sure...

If he looks you in the eye with that gleam of sexual excitement and satisfaction, I'd say, unless he's a really good actor, he's into you. Does work take him away from you a good part of the day? If so, I can see where your anxiety is coming from. But you say you're married, right? Trust is an essential element. Sounds like he's into you--he's just really busy and tired. I too know about running a small business--it is all-consuming.

if it's his busy season that's the reason..
have you tried sending him a racey im? maybe he's just too busy this week to send one. take the initiative try it.

Going through a divorce with my STBX...weve been separated for 3.5 years.

I will try the racy IM...or a sexy voice mail...Ive only called him once...that being said and a lighbulb going off in my head...maybe he doesnt think Im into him...???

And yes...the sexual excitement is DEFINITLEY there. I left work this past Monday for an afternoon of...well...an afternoon of stuff that I have never experienced before in MY LIFE!!! and then he made me dinner...

But I havent really spoken to him since...

WORK???? You all think so???

If you guys are having fantastic sex, then, yes, I'd say work is keeping him busy right now. As you said, the holidays are extremely busy--hang in there; should get better after New Year's.

Thank you Koolman!!

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((( Butterflies )))

((( rapid heartbeat )))

Experience one or other of those ... or both ?

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BigBeeper - yes, to both and I think he does too. He was "ready" for me when I left work for our afternoon together on Monday...It is VERY intense, seductive...a little scary emotionally...and exciting...My heart trips when he walks up behind me and whispers in my ear and I almost pass out after he does this...

does that help, BigBeeper...?

And he makes direct eye contact with me and does not back down...and he groans when he looks at me and licks his lips....TMI???

Ill stop...BigBeeper...your opinion? Is he into me?

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Is 'He' an Actor perchance ?

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BigBeeper...

No, not an actor...an Aries...

Well, he's certainly into you sexually, when you are together!!!
What about the rest of the relationship -- the nonsexual side of it?
Is there a good give and take!!? Do you guys do other stuff and get together when you can both arrange it or are things done always to his convenience?
I'm not suggesting that such is the case, it's just that those are the kind of things that I would be looking at in order to answer the question that you are asking.
Maybe you should get that book that your question sort of paraphrases -- "He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys" by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo.
I haven't read the book, but I've seen that guy on enough talk shows to get the gist of what you look for.
Does he *make* time for you, even if his schedule IS busy?
Here's a line from the book: "Please, if you can trust one thing I say in this book, let it be this: When it comes to men, deal with us as we are, not how you'd like us to be."
If you want to read an excerpt from the book (which is where I got that line from), here's the link: http://64.233.167.104/search?q=cache:F61gfi-4c7YJ:www.usatoday.com/life/books/excerpts/2004-09-08-hes-just_x.htm+%22he%27s+just+not+that+into+you%22&hl=en&ct=clnk&cd=4&gl=us
Good luck and happy dating!!!!

Thank you CarlaBent...I have read the book...

Yes, there is a good give and take...or there was until this past monday night. I feel VERY comfortable talking to him and he has shared life experiences with me that are astounding...and he makes me laugh so hard I almost pee my pants!!! LOL...

After Monday, the communication has slowed down drastically...we used to say hi in the morning and Chat on line from when I got home and after the kids went to bed...some of the chat was foreplay and some was just chatting about us...

I had a crissis on Tuesday...I left him a voice mail and he called me back and talked to me until I was laughing about it...

I dont want to bother him...I know that he is busy...he told me that these next three (now two) weeks were the busiest of the year for him. And his best friend, who I love dearly, told me that she was planning on staying away from him for the next two weeks as she does every year...

So my plan is to keep faith and be faithful as we have committed ourseleves to the exclusivity of the relationship and see how things go after the holidays...

It will either be a goodbye, I dont want you or a thank you for your patience and understanding...I hope it is the latter...

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Explains it then, Aries ... away with the Fairies !

:-)

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I was wrong...he just wants to be friends...says it is too difficult for our lives to 'mesh" so why bother...I am NOT pleased...He is pushing me away...