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My wife is too attached to other family members who have made poor choices in life for themselves. Her affiliation is so acute with these individuals (they are adults, some as old as 40yrs old), she seems to place them as a priority over her relationship with her husband; me.
She really believes that her catering to these "consuming" family members is helping them. It doesn't, they are always getting into trouble with the law and never able to hold down a job. They only talk about making things better, but they never do.
My wife keeps telling me she doesn't mind being there for them. She thinks that if she isn't there for them, no one else will be.
Other family members are voicing their concern to me, but not to her. They are afraid of upsetting her and she holding a grudge against them. I want them to say something because I need help in making her understand.
How can I get others to step up and state their thoughts?
She really believes that her catering to these "consuming" family members is helping them. It doesn't, they are always getting into trouble with the law and never able to hold down a job. They only talk about making things better, but they never do.
My wife keeps telling me she doesn't mind being there for them. She thinks that if she isn't there for them, no one else will be.
Other family members are voicing their concern to me, but not to her. They are afraid of upsetting her and she holding a grudge against them. I want them to say something because I need help in making her understand.
How can I get others to step up and state their thoughts?
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I gave my 2 week notice last Friday 13th. Now to join you fine people in a life of leisure and nothing else to do but to look out for myself....is it just me or does that sound pretty boring? My goal was to live to retire and I guess having to take early retirement because of health reasons wasn't exactly the way I had planned things. I just can't stay in that building that is reeking mildew...
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Has anyone tried these supplements? Do they give MGers more quality of life by improving memory and overall well being?Thanks!Barbel
Thanks for your kind words. Let me assure you, I have tried talking to my wife about how I feel...many, many, many times. The response I get is crying and resentment towards me for speaking out against something she does. This is what is stressing me. I believe if I could get her in front of a counselor, therapist or just someone non-biased, it may open up a constructive line of communication. But you know what...she will not agree to speak with anyone about us. Go figure.
Good luck!