In a nutshell I recently saw a girl that I have been in love with since 6th grade (I am 27 now). I grew up on the east coast, was a very close friend to her throughout my teen years but we lost touch when she started dating a guy at 20 years old and she got pregnant. She soon after married him and had another child with him. I have had relationships and have always thought in the back of my mind that I wished I had dated her. When I was younger I was just an average kid, she only saw me as friends. I now have grown into my looks, have a successful job working in entertainment in los angeles. Recently I saw her after almost 5 years and still felt those feelings for her more than ever. To make the situation even more difficult she informed me that she is very unhappy in her marriage. She told me her husband was an alcoholic and a workaholic. She admitted to having to call the police twice on him for him being too aggressive with her when he was drunk. After learning this information and consoling her it made me think I actually still had a shot with her. We talked about the days back in high school and I told her that I had such a crush on her and pretty much always had feelings for her. She welcomed this news and we had a passionate kiss (more than friends type of kiss). After realizing it was inappropriate as she was still married it seemed as though it was a long time coming. I made plans with her the next day to see her and meet the kids as I was leaving on plane to go back to los angeles. I met with her, things did not seem weird, in fact her two children seemed to fall in love with me immediately. I am now back in California and don't know what to do. It's awful I am feeling I want her marriage to fail for selfish reasons but feel if she is so unhappy and in a potentially dangerous relationship I could make her a much happier person. I also would like a family and don't mind she already has kids. My hopeless romantic side has me looking for jobs back east that fits into my career with the hopes that within a year she'll be divorced and if I have a good job back east that can support a family we could begin dating. My more rational side feels that is too big of a risk and I should focus on my career here in LA. What do I do? How can I find out from her how she is feeling without potentially scaring her off? I feel if I have felt this way about her for 15 years now I will always feel that way until I do something about it. I also don't want to be a home wrecker.
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