Let me just preface this post by saying I am completely beside myself and in a very dark place right now--
I am just here to seek some support and I just have a few questions. I have been with my boyfriend for three years he went to rehab about two months ago and stayed there for 30 days. About three weeks ago on October 6th long story short, he walked away from our relationship it was very sudden and unexpected. He was at my house in the morning on that particular day kissing me before he left and then 12 hours later that night I asked him a question that supposedly set him off and he claims it was the last straw however we’ve normally been able to work through things before. Not this time, he was stubborn and assured me his mind was made up he was very angry and moody to say the least. Fast forward for two weeks we went back-and-forth he was acting very manic, his emotions were up-and-down for example one minute he said that maybe down the road we would be back together, the next minute he was crying saying he fell out of love with me and we would never be together again, the next minute saying we could be friends, the next minute saying if I give him space maybe he would rethink it —he was just so up-and-down, a couple of times he referenced being “sick and not thinking clearly.” He said he is overwhelmed with his life and needs to get his life in order but didn’t elaborate on that. In his defense, he asked for space but me being so heartbroken and acting out of emotion and desperation I kept reaching out despite him slowly blocking me due to not giving him space. Our last interaction via phone was when he screamed at me saying to leave him alone never talk to him or his family yet or he would call the police and to get out of his life he was cutting all ties for good. But again three days before was saying he doesn’t want me gone for his life from his life for good. The other thing too is four days after he broke up with me he had a doctors appointment and he told me that they drug tested him and that his urine came back with THC. He tried to tell me that it was a false positive of one of his Medications, however, I know his med list and I went and checked in with my doctor since I had an appointment the next day and she said none of the medicines he’s on would cause a false positive for THC. Correct me if I’m wrong but even though many people don’t think marijuana is a drug if he is using that isn’t that considered a relapse because aren’t people who are in recovery supposed to abstain from any and all substances? I know it’s hard to judge based on a single post but does it sound like from people's opinions he may have relapsed and this is why he is acting like this? When people relapse do they push their loved ones even people who have been there by their side away? I am trying to make sense of this and the only thing that I keep coming up with is his sobriety is not doing so well right now?? I don’t know why else he would be acting like this after we’ve been together for three years and I’ve literally stuck by his side through some of the most trying times of his life. I’m not an addict so I’m considered a support to him and I do fully support his sobriety. I definitely try to hold him accountable which is something that he has never learned in life so I think that he twists that around at times and tells people that I try to control him but really I’m looking out for his best interest. I would appreciate anybody’s thoughts, opinions or personal experiences either being in relationships with addicts/ people in early recovery??