
Healthy Relationships Support Group
No relationship is perfect. A long-term relationship requires constant effort to understand each other, fix misunderstandings, solve problems and continue to grow as both individuals change and evolve. How we deal with our misunderstandings is the focus of this community. Join us to find support, get advice, and share your experience with your relationship.
It's so much harder to solve problems -- to figure out -- these sorts of things while you are still in them!!!
Don't let the fear of loneliness keep you there. You're ALREADY lonely!!!
You will be absolutely amazed at how much good getting out of an unhealthy environment can do!! Once you're out of the 'shit' for a little while, you won't be able to believe that you ever actually chose to live in it!!!!
He's already told you that he can't change. (And of course he probably 'can', but what he has said makes it abundantly clear that he doesn't plan to do so!!)
And really, there's nothing TO figure out. He is not a quality person, certainly nobody that you should be having a relationship with. The only question that you need to answer, at this moment, is where you are going to go. Because you surely should not be THERE!!!!!!
Best of luck, and take care!!!!! No one should be with a shady, selfish liar.
LEAVE!!!!!!!
Any female friends you can lean on? Any family? Hanging out with them until you figure out your next move would proably be the best recourse right now. But, if you need money, and are not working, probably a good idea to get a job, then a small efficiency to live in. I've found that earning and having my own money is a powerful step to being self-sufficient. I'm maybe not self-FULFILLED, but I'm self-SUFFICIENT (laughs).