I have been married for 25 years to a really nice guy. He has been a great friend and father. We haven't had a very sexual marriage. It started out okay, but has dwindled over the years. I lost interest because there was no passion or romance. He lost interest because he got lazy. Now I have found out that he lost interest in me because he has been fantasizing about men. He has decided he is bi-sexual. He swears (and I believe him) that he has never been unfaithful. He thought that I didn't want sex so he has left me alone, which was fine with him because he isn't attracted to me anymore. I have been depressed and lonely because there is no intimacy in the marriage. We have both been keeping quiet because we were too embarrassed to speak of it. He says he loves me and doesn't want to break up and is too old to go out trolling for guys. We are now in the process of trying to regain our sex life together. My problem is that I am devastated that all of these years he hasn't wanted me. I thought that he didn't want sex, but it turns out that he did, just not necessarily with me. There is a hole in the pit of my stomach that won't go away. I have done nothing but cry for the last week. Was I in denial? I must have been. What a lie we've been living. I need some help with this. Any thoughts?