This sounds silly, but it works. Talk yourself up. Make jokes all the time about how you're so awesome, you're so hot, you're all that and a bag of chips. At first you'll feel silly, but after actually HEARING the words several times, and also occasionally hearing people agree, you'll be amazed that you find yourself believing it. I know, it worked for me. I used that approach and back when I was an even bigger mamacita than I am now I used to be able to get any man I wanted because I truly believed I was hot shit. I still do. ;)

While the other post said it might be silly -- this might be cliche -- but beauty truly does start from the inside out...so I'd 1st ask you -- how are you on the inside? And, I don't think the other post sounded silly -- I used to (every once in a while still do!) tell myself I was hot:) lol -- and ya know what -- it wasn't to talk myself up or convince myself..I believed it...but what I believe is hot may/not be what anyone else considers hot...ya know? Anyway -- I believe for ANY long term results -- you really have to put the hard work into it..ugh! I'd say find out where your weaknesses are...is it fat intake, carbs, etc? Personally, I'm HUGE on carbs...pasta, UGH! lol -- And, I truly believe from experience that the only way to have effective results is balance! Don't deprive yourself of the things you love, even in the beginning -- or you'll be miserable..that is not conducive to success.

Ya know -- I'm big on taking responsiblity, etc...not blaming others...(hard on myself, lol) -- but when I was losing my weight -- my brother said something so monumental to me..and I'd NEVER realized it til he said it -- in our family..we were brought up to believe we were not satisfied unless we were stuffed...and that statement is so true! And, unfortunately, I'm still that way. Ugh!

It takes a lot of hard work..planning, etc...A lot of ppl think they need to eat less...you need to eat RIGHT...and for a lot of ppl its MORE...like 4-6 smaller meals/day....

And..can't leave out the dreaded word -- EXERCISE...IMperative!! Maybe w/the new year around the corner get a gym membership?? Do you have someone you could work out with? That helps tremendously!!

Ok--I've babbled enough! You're probably thinking thank GAWD she's done!! LOL

I wish you the absolute best!!!!!!!

hey there, i recently lost alot of weight and it was a struggle!!.. my mom passed away when i was 12 ( 23 know) ever since then my weight went up and down. heres what i did.. i worked out-went for walks, did sit ups.. and just tried to cut back
i would buy string cheese, yogurt, veggies etc.
my problem is going out to eat too.. just try and order healthy and work out.. maybe your husband or boyfriend can join in too..
my other problem is also around 3 or 4 i get hungry for a snack.. some of the diet bars are good.. and the smart ones.. i did weight watchers in high school and lost 23 pounds.. even though you have to count points it wasnt too bad and you had a lot of support. good luck

I excercise daily 7 days a week 1 hour a day and it has always worked getting rid of my baby fat and I had 4 and the last were twins

I've gained like 30lbs in the past six months and I feel ugly and depressed about it. Can't fit into most of my clothes. I think it reflects how i've been feeling about myself. I've been sitting around too much, overindulging on all that junk foods. I really want to get healthy and in shape again too. I don't really believe in dieting persay, but a shift in how and what you eat and to get some exercise. I learned on oprah a good way to get in shape and I did lost 60lbs once in the past doing it. Gonna start it again. It's about balance and moderation. Never skip breakfast. Eat atleast three regular meals a day or five smaller meals. Make better choices in your selections and put the same portion amount of each on the plate, like chicken, veg., and rice for instance. Cut down or eliminate all white stuff such as suger, flour, potatoes, white bread/rice/pasta, take pretty much takes care of candy bars, chips, donuts and so on. I like to eat alot of chicken, fish, veggies, beans, tuna, salads, eggs, yogurt and the like. It's all good, you can have bacon and eggs, just don't eat the whole things of bacon, two eggs, three strips of bacon, 2slices wheat tst, maybe some fruit, milk etc. for breakfast. You can have steak, all kinds of stuff, even some chocolate is good, dark chocolate has antioxidants as well. I like to make sugerfree pudding with coolwhip and nuts on top and maybe sliced banana in it too for a small desert. You don't have to suffer. One other key thing is to not eat or drink anything for two to three hours before going to bed. Use lose alot just from doing that one. Drink plenty of water. and get some exercise, any is better than none. It'll make a world of difference. You need calories to have energy to exercise and protein to build muscle, if you build muscles, they burn fat as well all the time. The more you exercise the bigger portions you can eat too. This works! And yea, love yourself, tell yourself you're beautiful everyday. good luck.

You're gonna hate me ladies, but I'm into slender gals! That said, a sense of humor about your weight, just getting it out in the open, is probably the best approach to dealing with it. As kristy said, talk yourself up, about how hot you are, even if you think you're Scottish fat bastard in Austin Powers saying "I'm dead sexy...look at my big titties..." A sense of humor about it will improve your mood and your SO's I think.

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Accept it. Tackle it as a long-term goal instead of a short-term 'fix'.

Losing weight is only part of it, keeping it off is the biggest challenge.

Good luck.

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I agree, if you want anyone else to think you are confident and sexy, then YOU have to feel confident and sexy!

If you want to shed those pounds eat alot of fiber and exercise for atleast an hour everyday, even if it is just cardio. I you have a two story house run up and down, or take the kid for a walk. Little things like that will make you feel better about yourself.

Goodluck, you can do it and yes love yourself first.

You are a strong sexy woman, and you brought this man's beautiful daughter into the world, how much sexier could you get?

what the hell is wrong with you, koolman?!
Why would you start your post "sorry ladies but i'm into slender gals!"
That was such a jerk thing to say!

i didn't think that had anything to do with rest of his post....or the answer to her question either.