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If I'm in the wrong place, I apologize to everyone. Long story short: I am unemployed over 1 yr, another issue in & of itself. I have been residing with my ex-husband the last 6 months as I have nowhere to go. Supposedly he wanted a "real relationship" with me again. I had my doubts due to our prior history of him being a deviant, substance abuser, and abusive in general. I have tried with him and it's not working. He has to take pills for hard-ons, says women are too "into" sex & he's not. Yet he gets drunk & parades around with his dick hanging out, sends me nasty texts, constantly flirting with women etc. Also found e-mails on the computer where it appears he's hooking up with other women. I just feel this is a form of abuse, sexually. If I were to sleep with him, I can't tolerate the cheating in any form. And then I think, why the hell would I want sex from someone like this? So when I decide I don't want him to look at me or touch me at all, I get this response? Don't even know what to think anymore about anything. Am I just nuts? Wish I had a real relationship, but it would never happen here and I feel this is just another of his many mockeries of me. I can hardly stop crying as this happened again yesterday & last night.....
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You need to find a way to get out of this situation. Being with him or around him is not good for you. It doesn't sound like you have a relationship or at least not much of one. I am guessing here but he doesn't sound too healthy,if he is using drugs and he needs pills to get things to work- then he has some serious health issues going on- blaming women for being to into sex is him being in denial about his condition. Abuse or whatever you want to call it, it's not a healthy relationship that's for sure. If it was you wouldn't be crying right?
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Thanks, and no, it's not healthy at all. Tried to avoid returning here, trying to find a new way out. I tend to agree that with his "issues" it's easier to just blame me, or anyone. Sadly DV is tough. I did just get off the phone with their hotline & it did help. She did agree it is abuse of sorts, just completely disrespectful.
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I think you are splitting hairs here. You are putting your self in an awful situation with a guy you know is a loser. Get out! Then you can stop crying and move on with your life.
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