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My hubby is always with his best friend and/or his best friend is over here. He doesn't stay the night but they talk, hang out, go to his buddys house and work out together, go to the gym together, do everything together. I love his best friend, i mean he would do anything for us...now he is a little younger, he is 19, we're 32 and they always have to call eachother for the littlest things just to hang out together.
He's here everyday, every night till late, so my hubby and i only have some intimitate times, but we're usually pretty drunk anyway by the time we get to sleep, lol
Why do they have to be together all the time? I don't mind, i'm just wondering what the deal is.
all they talk about is cutting up their bodies, working out and work...sometimes i get buzzed and husband gets mad at me saying i'm flirty and he seems jealous of his friend when his friends gone. It's understandable.
They spend all summer swimming, all winter riding...we do everything with his best friend and sometimes his girlfriend that he even tells us he would rather be with us than her (hanging out with us) and his girlfriedn is so pretty, she looks like a barbie doll.
He'd RATHER be with me and Jesse (well, Jesse) than his own girlfriend.
I asked my hubby if he liked his friend in other ways and got "WHAT? No, i'm not gay" and stuff like "ewwww, come on now" and neither of them look/act gay except joking with eachother, lol
I'm not mad, but curious...they are over at his best friends house now working out.
He's here everyday, every night till late, so my hubby and i only have some intimitate times, but we're usually pretty drunk anyway by the time we get to sleep, lol
Why do they have to be together all the time? I don't mind, i'm just wondering what the deal is.
all they talk about is cutting up their bodies, working out and work...sometimes i get buzzed and husband gets mad at me saying i'm flirty and he seems jealous of his friend when his friends gone. It's understandable.
They spend all summer swimming, all winter riding...we do everything with his best friend and sometimes his girlfriend that he even tells us he would rather be with us than her (hanging out with us) and his girlfriedn is so pretty, she looks like a barbie doll.
He'd RATHER be with me and Jesse (well, Jesse) than his own girlfriend.
I asked my hubby if he liked his friend in other ways and got "WHAT? No, i'm not gay" and stuff like "ewwww, come on now" and neither of them look/act gay except joking with eachother, lol
I'm not mad, but curious...they are over at his best friends house now working out.
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The thing about these friends is that they don't last long... maybe a year, or two if your lucky... but then something happens and boom their out of the picture.
I have seen the same things in sexual relationships too. Partners that Drink together, drug together, etc.. Sometimes its more then that others it is all about that... depends...
Cant say...
So I guess you can figure out on your own... and BTW, I don't know if its much of your business. Its not like hes leaving you alone... yet:)
If you need some alone time, plan something... have you two go out to dinner, some drink, and a bit of sex...
Ask yourself how he would feel if you had a girlfriend round your house constantly, would it annoy him and make him feel like he doesn't have any privacy?
i don't see a problem with the age difference, what is the problem is that you don't get to spend time with him. Plus at 32, isn't it about time he started taking his responsibilities seriously, like the children, you etc. Instead of spending his time 'hanging out' like a teenager?
do not discourage too much work out budies hard to find.
I f your husband wants to hang out all the time with this guy and brings him to the house then flirting with him is o.k.(i am assuming you have never been with friend)
Hubby being jelous of you and friend inconsistent with his bad boy image. I would tell him you are going to be friendly to friend and he has nothing to worry about.
Super hot girls like friends friend are often(not always) hard to be around I was at an intimate bbq with miss america!She was so uncool i could not wait to leave. AVERAGE CHICKS ROCK.
best of luck JJ
I like being with both of them though! They look like twins. But sometimes i do want some alone time and i think a threesome is out of the question with hubby! LOL
Thanks you guys!
I know the relationship will last because his friend is moving in with us when we move into our 6 bedroom house in Arizona (when it's built) and plus he can't live without his Jesse, rofl!
If it were me I may throw that back at my husband and say if you don't want me to be friendly and have a bond myself with your friend possibly you should considered the amount of time he spends here in our home...
Friends are awesome and needed and all that good stuff but he is treating you like our the third wheel, and then acting jealous when you include yourself in the activities of your home...
Do you have any reservation to this friend moving into your families home permanently? Could this be a disaster waiting to happen?