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How do I stop being needy and going too fast?

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I know I'm not the only one in the world who is needy. I need people, but no one seems to need me (I would say no one wants me, but I know intellectually that would be a gross and unfair lie). I understand completely that you're supposed to *want* someone's company, not *need* it. I understand that you can't let someone love you until you love yourself. I understand all that "be your own person" stuff. I just can't seem to DO it.
Also, I go too fast with males - in every way (perhaps these are related?). How do I put the brakes on?
Also, I go too fast with males - in every way (perhaps these are related?). How do I put the brakes on?
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People generally fall into one of four categories. You want to be like your mother. You want to be like your father. You don't want to be like your mother. You don't want to be like your father. Almost all of your decisions are based off of this if you really look at yourself and your decisions.
You're already going over a lot of crazy ideas in your head. We all do it at times.
So, let's be constructive and get some real answers to those questions. I'm not asking you to post your answers here. When you can answer those questions, all of them, then you'll start to understand who you really are and where you want to go.
It may appear to be difficult at first, but anyone can do it. You have the opportunity in your youth to figure out who you really are. Do it now and you won't have that horrid future you see before you.
It's not about needing or wanting someone. It's about being you. Be comfortable with YOUR life. Not what holes need to be filled by someone else. Only you can do that. Do you really think you can do the same for somebody else if you haven't taken care of yourself first?
If you begin to understand that, then you can more easily be the person you really want to be.
Sometimes people put other peoples needs over their own, and cannot have what they need or want.
I put others needs before my own on occasion.
Need and want yourself first, then everything else will follow.