So my boyfriend and I , who lived together, are having some problems. WE finally got to have a nice talk today about the root of our problems. I am always complaining to him that he doesnt do the little things for me anymore and that I need more affection from him, he usually would blame it on things I need to fix. But today instead of fighting, we had a great discussion. He said its hard for him to do those things for me because I am always nagging him about it. He says it feels more like a chore because its as though he has to do them instead of wanting to do them. He said that he has been so stressed from work. He works a lot of hours. He feels stress from his kids mom, spending the little time he can with them, and said the only area he has room to decompress with is the time he spends with me. He said that if I am always pressuring him, it adds more stress. I understand that. He asked for me to back off a little, not physically back off, but back off always questioning him why he doesnt do the little things. He also said That he isn't happy, that he doesnt have time to do the things for himself that he needs to do to make himself happy, such as time to do what guys do to relax, like video game, or just hanging out. He also said he is so afraid that if something happens to him and he cant work everything will fall apart because he pays for our housing, he pays child support, and if he lost his job form something he would lose our housing, couldnt support his kids, and his ex coulndt pay for her rent because of no support from him. NOw I want to give him his space and time to get himself together. I am just scared because I am not sure how to do that without getting upset. How do I make myself happy so the pressure if released off of him? Any advice. We both want this to work. Its just hard with his demanding schedule. He works 60-70 hrs a week, the only two days off we have to go and get the kids and we are running around with them. SO he has no time for him. What do you guys think, any one have experience with this kind of situation?
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