Men really find it difficult to talk, until recently when OH and I had problems, when he stopped speaking to me, ignored me etc, then suddenly started talking to me again, he just wanted everything to be back to normal and not talk about why.
I think that is why I built up so much resentment, because I wanted to talk, and he wouldn't.

Now, we do talk, I don't know how you can manage it, but I tell him to sit down, that we are talking it through. Many times he stands up and tries to leave the room, but I tell him to sit down again.

However I have had 18 years of the previous way, so it has taken some time - lol.

Plus, I am a different person to the one I was a year ago, I don't put up with crap anymore.

i just start talking cause the minute i say i need to chat about us he runs a mile and goes and hides in his cave!

That damn bloody cave of theirs!!!!

My husband and i also have communication problems, and ours got to the point of separation..my husband still lived in the house to help me with the kids, but we didn't sleep together..After about 3 wks of being separated he finally told me that he never realized what he was missing until it wasn't there! During those 3 wks of us separated, we talked less than we did when we were together..During those 3 weeks we started talking more and more and now he has an easier time of expressing himself! Good luck

have you tired to let it out in a letter to him???? you need some way to get your thoughts and feelings out. if he's not letting you use your voice use pen and paper..

if he dont wanna read it then well, he's not wanting to put his effort in to make it work.

WARNING- MALE POINT OF VIEW- WARNING

Kidding... kinda.
Often the reason men are afraid to have these talks is that you're so much better at it than us... and these talks can often end up with us feeling tongue-tied and defensive. I've had girlfriends bring up things I said three years ago in a letter before we were even dating as counter-arguments to what I'm expressing.
Do you find yourself trying to argue with his point of view when he says something? I.e., "I feel like you're not including me in your life," "What about last Saturday when I asked if you wanted to go out with me and my friends? What about when I tried to invite you to that baby shower? What about when you said you'd rather watch the game than come over to my mother's for our annual Easter brunch?"
A lot of times we just don't want to have these talks because we end up feeling like idiots afterwards... Maybe you could try to ease him into one by starting a conversation based on how HE feels, and not contradict him; just listen, and try to understand even if it sounds stupid. Which it likely will; most of what we say sounds stupid, even to us. We just can't concentrate when we look into those big [brown/blue/green/hazel] eyes of yours.
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I'm having the same problem as you, Only been married 3 years. Husband used to comminicate to me. now for past year it's nothing!! I've tried everything. Finally to the point where "i'm done trying" as someone told me. you can't comminicate with the "unwilling".
It's emotional abuse. I even went so far as to leave him and left him a lengthy letter hoping he would read it and he would get how serious it was that we talked.
Well, he didn't read the letter (said he did) and that didn't work either.
Comminication is one of the most important things in a relationship.. I don't see how it can survive with out it. Mine just gets worse and worse..
I know how you feel, How flusterating it can be. Makes you feel like your not important to him.
I wish you luck!!

this kinda happend to my boyfriend and i but it was the opposite.. if he thought something was wrong i would blow him off and tell him "iam fine" when really i wasnt.. i would wait till he got home and then tell him.. BIG MISTAKE bc it got us to fight. i did do the letter thing and it does help.. he finally told me that i needed to put myself in his shoes and realize how much it frustrates him..

Ok, first I want to thank Jake for being brave enough to say those things!
Second, I agree with Jake... (yep, a woman agreeing with a man for a change!) lol
I finally got my s/o to talk to me about "why" he wouldn't talk to me and he basically mirrored what Jake stated. That I am more articulate than he is and I think faster than he does when it comes to our little "debates". He even told me that I should have been an attorney, that the other side would not have been able to stand a chance!
He stated that after one of our little "debates" he is left feeling attacked.. and the sad thing is,, I can completely understand! We as women, sit and actually think about this kind of thing all day and are ready. They think about general life things and not relationship things and so therefore, when we want to have a little "talk",, they start to RUN!!!! When I mention that I need to talk, I actually have started to hear the sharp intake of breath that comes from him and have started to take pity on him and try to reassure him that I have no intention of attacking him! We then laugh and I get more out of him, than I ever did before!!
Sorry to have seemed like I was taking the male side, but, it seems to work better!
Good luck to you and please let me know how it goes!