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my girlfriend has ptsd and suffered an episode last weekend. it was the first time since we have been together this has happened. before this we have has a very strong relationship, maybe a little codependent on eachother but loved eachothers company.
Now since the episode she has been emotionally unavailable and told me she needs a little space. She won't/can't tell me she loves me. Her and I are both very needy and my neediness is coming out right now. i want to give her the space she needs to find peace within herself to love me, but im making myself a victim and having alot of anxiety over not being able to pick up the phone and call her and just talk. this is really hard, if anybody can give me some advice on what i need to do i would greatly appreciate it.
Now since the episode she has been emotionally unavailable and told me she needs a little space. She won't/can't tell me she loves me. Her and I are both very needy and my neediness is coming out right now. i want to give her the space she needs to find peace within herself to love me, but im making myself a victim and having alot of anxiety over not being able to pick up the phone and call her and just talk. this is really hard, if anybody can give me some advice on what i need to do i would greatly appreciate it.
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
when people need space the most loving thing we can do is allow them to have it.
she will come back.
and, i would add, that practicing opposites seems to let them realize that you are your own person and you are respecting their wishes--rather than coming from our own insecurities.
blessings!
well i talked to her tonight and she actually broke up with me. what we talked about was until she is emotionally available her and i will work on getting the friendship back and i want to show her i will be there no matter what, good or bad.
SLA what do we do?? how do i change these anxiety and panic attacks? its like the emotion takes over and some thing else takes over
I was labled with PTSD back in 98'. I had an very abusive child hood.. Never the less I can tell you a thing or two about what she is going thru.
After and "flash back" it take a lot of out the person. Reliving those memories are tuff, we tend to shut down our emotions in order to deal with the pain that keeps getting tossed back into our faces. With PTSD there is a rare case that she will go through what the doc's call "body Memories" where the body will remember the pain and make her feel it too. If its a physical one.
Is she in theropy?
What are her triggers?
If you know her triggers you might be able to help her more.
As far as being emotionaly supportive, maybe a lil phone or emai or etc. From time to time is just what she might need. Or sending her an hallmark card in the mail to say hey i miss you i am here for you love you etc.
Each person is different with the disorder.
I worked hard to beat mine! It took years, to get a choke hold it!
I can understand your issue with wanting to call her and be there for her, but not trying to over push your limits. Its normal to reach out to be there for a person you care for and love, and try to over push ur limits with them at the same time..