My fiance says that he doesn't feel a "spark" or sexual attraction, and because of that, while he LOVES me, he doesn't feel IN love with me. He's not sure if it can be fixed but doesn't want to give up on the relationship.
Has anyone experienced this and gotten through it? How? I suggested we try going on dates, and he agreed. I also have been working on getting healthier (I'm the same size I was when we met, but that size was overweight, so I'm trying to lose weight and have been for awhile now). I decided to make more of an effort to get ready and not just always be hanging around in "comfy" clothes.
I truly, in my heart and soul, think that it's more emotional/mental than it is physical. I just have a gut feeling it's a mental block. Dates will help, but what else can I/he/we do to rebuild that connection? Is there a way, or is it just unfixable?
Context... We've been living together for two years, together for three. There were some chemical dependency issues (not hard drugs of any kind, but still serious withdrawals) which makes me wonder if this is just part of withdrawal, but it also could be part of sobriety, which still makes it a problem (withdrawal will fade, if this is just how he feels when he's totally sober, well... we need to fix it).
Can somebody please help me? I feel like my whole world is collapsing. I need to know if this is something we can fix (we both want to fix it). Please. Thank you...
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