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however i would like to add that however their father treated their mothers is how they will eventually treat their wife, if they are sympathetic to their mother. at first they will do everything they can to not be like their dad, making self protective vows (i will never be like my dad) but they end up acting like them anyway, and usually very blindly.
All I know is my husband "hates" his mother. and just wondering "if" this is why since they moved close to us; for me to take care of them; our relationship has changed big time!!
And after her boys were married, putting down their wifes.
Lying to their father about things to get them in trouble.
It is really nothing "major" certainly nothing to make him hate her to this extent.
Noone has perfect childhood,I certaintly did not.My mother was worse than his; yet, I love my parents.
His hatred is real, says things like. "Stupid bitch, is a waste of skin!. worthless, pieces of s***! I could go on and on.
All I know is he is totally different now; since they came into our lifes. I get no attention, no communication, no anything!!
And his hatred is so disturbing!
Even thou' I don't see my mom much because I'm so busy with his. He acts like he can't stand her either.
Oh and always spending money, having a million clothes. His dad never being able to satify her.
Her being depressed and telling them she was going to kill herself.
Again, nothing to justify the hatred he has for her.
And his dad wasn't perfect either, but it's like he's forgave his father. and blames things he did wrong all on her. And still does!
I guess I'm just a more caring and forgiving person than that.
DS is awsome,wish I knew about it before. It's just that there is so much going on with our relationship. I can in no way tell everything,I'd have to write a book!!
I just know I have tryed to figure it out for so long, I can't do it anymore.
I feel married/but alone, unloved and worthless.