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Last night I had a fight with the BF. AGAIN!
I mention one thing that upsets me and why , and then like 10 mins later we are fighting the same thing we always fight about. His money spending problem, his smoking, my panic disorder and hormones and depression, and how Im not normal anymore, and Im trapping him , etc.....
I understand his thinking. Since I got this disorder , I have been paranoid, self conscious, depressed, and so much more , the hormones arnt helping, and the fact I am trying to have a drug free pregnancy isnt helping much either.....
I keep telling him to wait until I can get back on meds, and theropy, but he doesnt listen .
Maybe I AM the culprit in all this ! :O Maybe it really is all me.... Hrm.....
Maybe I should just stop trying to make life better and just deal with what I got ....I unno ....relationships right now ...pain in my ass!
I mention one thing that upsets me and why , and then like 10 mins later we are fighting the same thing we always fight about. His money spending problem, his smoking, my panic disorder and hormones and depression, and how Im not normal anymore, and Im trapping him , etc.....
I understand his thinking. Since I got this disorder , I have been paranoid, self conscious, depressed, and so much more , the hormones arnt helping, and the fact I am trying to have a drug free pregnancy isnt helping much either.....
I keep telling him to wait until I can get back on meds, and theropy, but he doesnt listen .
Maybe I AM the culprit in all this ! :O Maybe it really is all me.... Hrm.....
Maybe I should just stop trying to make life better and just deal with what I got ....I unno ....relationships right now ...pain in my ass!
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I can see why this is hard for him since your moods and hormones and everything are going nuts. I wish he didn't see the baby as trapping him, but as a great little person on the way.
I guess you just have to do your best to be the person you should be in the relationship.
It get's like that sometimes.
Just need to put your heads together, instead of apart.
Good luck.
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Try reading "The Dance of Anger: A Woman's Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships"
by Harriet Lerner
It really helped me understand why the "same old fights" kept coming up.
Don't try, just live your life.
Good luck.
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But it may also be accurate to say that you are trying your very best, as well.
If you are ill, and can't take meds, you may be rendered helpless at behaving correctly.
But you could (and probably should!!) do the therapy, to help you deal with all this!!!!
Better yet would be if you would both get marital counseling.
When you're arguing about the same things over and over again it's a sure sign that you are both stuck in ruts and know of no other way to behave. Therapy is excellent for breaking vicious circles/cycles!!!!!
Good luck!!!! I hope things work out for all 3 of you!!!!
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Hear Hear !!
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"Maybe I should just stop trying to make life better and just deal with what I got "
Yes, good idea.
It may catch on.
:-)
Good luck.
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