ok i have never dated someone who needs space. Long story short last month i had a tiff with my boyfriend. I felt really upset and hurt by the event that made me react. we talked for a bit that night on the phone and i was still upset and the conversation couldnt be finished cause he arrived at work. So the next day i wanted to continue and thought it was more important then other things and stressed not getting my momment because he couldnt give it at that momment and said he had 24 hours to give me the key and get his stuff. I had the next day off of work.He said fine. Then i felt bad and texted him at work saying i wasnt intending a breakup (i could see how that would come across) and needed to sort things out. When he came he stayed for two hours when he said he only had a half hour to give. I asked questions and he answered. I asked if he wants to see others, he said no. i asked he was trying to push me away to break up with him, he said no. I asked if he wanted to stay in this relationship he said yes. I asked where our relationship was going he said he wasnt sure. We both decided our focus was to be a couple. He asked if i wanted that and i said yeah. During this time he held me and tried to comfort me while crying I asked bunch of other questions (to many to list). before he left he said he wasnt sure when things would be the way they were..to focus on us and not get paranoid. He took our cat but left his stuff and didnt give me the key. THis was June 17th. THree weeks went by i would call once a week to ask what was going on and i wasnt asking calmly. he wasnt returning my calls. Beginning of this month my grandma was dying. So i went to him and he watched my pets and spent a couple hours with me before leaving for the out of state funeral. I asked if we were ok and he said yeah we can work through this its just that he sucks. He said he gets in weird moods where hes like a hermit and he has a lot going on. He said i love you when i did. He asked how long since our last intimate and i told him a month or more and he apologized. He let me know towards the end of the week when he had to leave and couldnt feed the animals. Another two week went by (bringing us today) and he texted me to ask if i called his sons mom that evening. My phone accidentally called her Monday the phone is new and has a touch screen and hangs off my hip and i work along counters in the lab. I told him no and i deleted her number after i saw the accidental call. I asked how he was doing and told him our 2 year aniversarry is soon and excited to celebrate it. I told him of my accomplishment on something i was working on in two years and havent heard anything back. From the time i got back from the funeral to the text the other night i didnt call him. My cousin suggeste not to if hes not. I told him to call me when hes ready and she said that by saying that and still calling once a week can push him if hes not ready. Especially if im calling panicking about whats going on. Im happy he texted me but i wish it was first a how are you not a question of me calling the mom of his son. I miss him. I have never dated anyone who needs space.Hes needed space before but it was for a short period of time (the weekend) and not this long.
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