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If so let them have that time while you have your time.
I am married, have a good job that I love, and this person that shut me out just became a big part of my life, and I didn't understand him shutting me out.
At any rate, I need to tread lightly with this relationship now, because it has changed. He called and talked to me like nothing had changed, but he did apologize probably three or four times, so that is a good thing, I guess. At least now I feel like I can call him if I want to, and not feel like he might reject me.
Time will tell . . . .
HOWEVER, people that have known him a lot longer than I have, warn me: this is the way he is; it may very well happen again, and to be prepared for it.
My mistake was I got WAY TOO emotionally involved with this guy; I am married, and this person is much, much younger than I am; there never was and never will be anything romantic- - it isn't like that. I just thought he and I had a different relationship, that he would not treat me like that.
I will proceed very slowly at this point,and tread lightly, as to not get too emotionally involved in this person's life, and give him his space, even though he is talking to me, which I think was part of the problem. We were talking A LOT During the day, on and off all day long. Now, he calls me once a day, maybe twice and that is it. In fact, we are getting together this coming weekend with a mutual friend for lunch on Saturday.
Thanks for all the advice.
Time will tell how this all goes.
When you say that something made him angry but that it no longer matters what that was, are you sure that that holds true for him, as well as for you?
If you really want to be there for someone, you respect what that means for them, even if it means not doing what *you* want to do.
Good luck with getting things back on track, in a way that is satisfying to both of you!!!!