SORRY - - this is a duplicate posting of advice. I didn't see my first post on the Advice post, so I posted again. SORRY FOR THE DUPLICATION!!

Is there something you enjoy that is personal to you?

If so let them have that time while you have your time.

I guess I don't understand your response -
I am married, have a good job that I love, and this person that shut me out just became a big part of my life, and I didn't understand him shutting me out.

i guess you just have to trust that when he wants to talk again he will, just let him know you'll be there. i'm taking a break from my bf, it was hard at first, but i think we've both grown from it and started to realize what was important for both of us. not sure if that will help you, sometimes people just need their space to figure themselves out.

Actually, he called me this morning for the first time in nearly 3 months; I am not sure if it was strictly on his own, because I have been talking to a mutual friend of ours about it and how hurt I was by it, so MAYBE she said something, but I am not totally sure; won't know until I ask her. Maybe not, because I know she had plans last night, and he might not have talked to her since yesterday.
At any rate, I need to tread lightly with this relationship now, because it has changed. He called and talked to me like nothing had changed, but he did apologize probably three or four times, so that is a good thing, I guess. At least now I feel like I can call him if I want to, and not feel like he might reject me.
Time will tell . . . .

I have the same problem with my ex. He probably is just used to being a bachelor and likes it that way. It doesn't mean he loves you any less; it's just that he doesn't know how to love any more. He loves himself, his house, his dog, his car and doesn't know how to share his life with anyone. He is probably jaded. Too bad you are suffering for what some other woman did to him. I suffer the same pain, I am sorry. The best thing to do is move on and don't hold on for 2 years. Never fear he will call when he wants sex and the toxic relationship will continue, you just have to decide when it will end.

I am guilty of shutting people out. When I am overwhelmed I need to be alone. My alone time helps me focus. It allows me to make thought through decisions. Rash decisions can be lethal for me. Be open with your friend. Tell him how it makes you feel. Perhaps he will explain himself better. If you do not have communication between you then what is the point of a relationship?

As I said, he is now speaking to me; he chose to call me last Saturday; did apologize for the way he treated me. And, it was a matter of him trying to deal with things, and that meant shutting certain people out of his life, so he could focus on what he is dealing with.
HOWEVER, people that have known him a lot longer than I have, warn me: this is the way he is; it may very well happen again, and to be prepared for it.
My mistake was I got WAY TOO emotionally involved with this guy; I am married, and this person is much, much younger than I am; there never was and never will be anything romantic- - it isn't like that. I just thought he and I had a different relationship, that he would not treat me like that.
I will proceed very slowly at this point,and tread lightly, as to not get too emotionally involved in this person's life, and give him his space, even though he is talking to me, which I think was part of the problem. We were talking A LOT During the day, on and off all day long. Now, he calls me once a day, maybe twice and that is it. In fact, we are getting together this coming weekend with a mutual friend for lunch on Saturday.
Thanks for all the advice.
Time will tell how this all goes.

giving space is the best thing. i just recently started dating a guy and in the beginning we saw each other everyday and it was getting to be too much.. now we see each other less and its great :}}

unfortunately, you have to give someone their space, and trust and pray that they will return, and if it is meant to be, they will, and in less than three months, he did. This is strictly a friendship, but an important one to me, and apparently means enough to him, too, that he returned in less than three months. He is just going through a difficult time, and has a lot of issues right now, so I had no choice but to give him his space.

I am busy going through a similar circumstance. I have realised for the sake of my marriage that I need to have a very different relationship with my friend that I did previously. This is very difficult but necessary. I am giving my friend all the space she needs and as a safety net am waiting for her to contact me.I don't want to hurt her or my wife again.

Because you are still "heart-connected" to this person. It's time to move on, to another person, a hobby or whatever, that you can pour your love into...

I know that you have since reestablished contact with this person, but I am still going to throw in my 2 cents to your original query and comments.
When you say that something made him angry but that it no longer matters what that was, are you sure that that holds true for him, as well as for you?
If you really want to be there for someone, you respect what that means for them, even if it means not doing what *you* want to do.
Good luck with getting things back on track, in a way that is satisfying to both of you!!!!