Friends with Benifits = all the physical fun without the responsibilites or commitments. Do you want to share things with him, and grow together? Or do you want to just mess around when he wants to, and then not get anything out of the encounter other than the chacne to be with him.

I've experienced this before. I always felt a lil empty after he left. If i brought it up, it was uncalled for because we were just "having fun." I dont suggest it nor condone the continued use of this term and the actions that result from it. If he cant commit to you, then why share your body with him?

Granted, i dont know the whole situation, but just based on what i read, it seems he's using you still.

I agree with Lilly20M!!
As your mama has probably told you,, or your grandmama... Why would be buy the cow if the milk were free! lol (very old saying,, but true)
If you are still intimate with him,, then you in your heart are hoping that it will keep you close until he comes to his senses,, honey he will not,, and how are you going to feel when you find out he is with another woman? Please, be careful.. I know you are hurting over the break-up,, but please do not set yourself up for even more pain!!!
Good luck and I will be thinking about you!

If you have feelings for someone you cant be friends with benefits... just not possible.

Been there done that..

believe all the post above me.. its so true.

It is very hard to break off relationships, especially when you love them. Friends with benefits usually means you are in a toxic relationship which I have come to accept. Yes it is probably lust at this point. However, at least you are not totally alone until you wait for that perfect man. I think being totally alone is worth. As long as you both love each other I am for it. If you don't love each other then that is a different story.

I know I couldn't and wouldn't do it; of course, I am a little older, but I don't think I could ever have done it with anyone. Too much emotion and I don't think it can work, without someone getting hurt.

well... i had a friends with benefits for a time... it was not someone thati had a previous relationship with... it was just that while we were physically attracted to each other... we literally had one other thing in common, and both of us knew that there would be no good relationship there. So we just had a purely physical thing, and when i found my girlfriend, the same night that i met her(someone i was interested in), i called my "friend" and broke it off.
Was that a healthy relationship? no. we were both using each other, but we both knew it.
If you want a friend with benefits... don't have it be with someone that you had a relationship with... it is not a good thing. it will chew you up and spit you out a complete mess.