i agree with you. i have people like that in my life...i feel peace towards them, i have forgiven them, but to have a relationship with them would only bring harm into my life.

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40 years to write, 4 minutes to sing about...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dkxfHCxf5zk

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I love The Eagles

What leads folks to a healed relationships are actions and decisions made by both parties involved....irregardless of who is "at fault" or if it's mutual...actions are key.

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Some people are incapable of 'going away' though.

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I mean saying 'Goodbye' is never a permanent thing, is it ?

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Are our instilled Prejudices not responsible for some of our behaviour ?

We do things we do not comprehend ?

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Don sings it best...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FglsDQguWow

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I think once trust is broken, the relationship is never the same again even if the parties involved are willing to do whatever it takes to work things out (even though that is what should have been done in the first place before the person at fault decided to go do something hurtful)....then forgiveness is possible...but to forget is another thing.

I share the same philosophy with you. If a person hurts me once, I might consider keeping them and trying but to be honest, I would rather not because if they are capable of being cruel and insensitive to me once then who's to say they won't do it again and again and again...? Once a cheat, always a cheat. Best thank them for a great time while it lasted and move on to someone who wants to love you with ever heartbeat!

Forgiveness I dont think is hard, it is the forgetting thats hard.I think Love is overrated what about just having someone so your not alone.

Its always ezier to forgive than it is to forget.

When you forgive someone for something they did wrong you can't keep bring it up. Bring it up means you never forgave them for their mistake.

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Perhaps.

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You are right. Forgiveness is really about you and not the other person. They will never experience your pain or anger unless you keep giving it to them so forgiveness is really about you letting go of all of that and being completely free.

In the case of my two friends (or shall I say ex-friends) who fell in love with each other and are now hurt and angry with each other all the time, I have let them go to work it out on their own.

My beloved forgives lots and is kind. She keeps saying that I am hurting myself not forgiving others. But am vengeful and want retribution. I am bit Sicilian in my attitude.