only you know if you can make it as couple or not. None of us know you on a personal level, nor we know what type of relationship you two have.


Have you thought about time apart. Not ended your relationship, but working on relationship issues and personal issues that effect your relationship. you can set rules and guild lines. Like NO DATING and give a bit of time limit. After say 30-60 days get together and talk them about the changes and where you both wanna go from that point on.

Is this the first time he's hit you?

only you know if you can make it as couple or not. None of us know you on a personal level, nor we know what type of relationship you two have.


Have you thought about time apart. Not ended your relationship, but working on relationship issues and personal issues that effect your relationship. you can set rules and guild lines. Like NO DATING and give a bit of time limit. After say 30-60 days get together and talk them about the changes and where you both wanna go from that point on.

Is this the first time he's hit you?

Amarie,

I was wondering if you just like to post a topic and never come back to it? You've done this twice before under Advice in this forum. But you never respond and apparently ignore everything anyone has said.

ACTUALLY I have responded to everyone who has sent me a reply, I just don't put it here for everyone to read.

However since it's an issue I will be sure not to come here again.

Thanks for the "Support"

my ex husb hit me once...said he'd never do it again...the 2nd time he did it...he was arrested for attempted murder...on ME...and lost his parental rights...you DON'T want to know my opinion...good luck !...sorry...but there is NO excuse for hitting...he is not a man...a man would walk away...

Amarie,

I'm not trying to keep you away. It was an observation. If you are getting the kind of support you need doing it your way, then you certainly shouldn't stop. And my comment shouldn't make you feel like you should do it in a particular manner.

That you were getting support shows my ignorance of what was going on. That is all. I'll stay out of your threads. I apologize.

correction...my ex husb hit me thru out our 4 1/2 year marriage..I stayed because I thought he would change...it only got worse...he didnt see his dtr for 20 yrs...lost his parental rights when she was 3...

Iam very distant from him and he know Iam hurt and confused but I beleive he beleives in his mind we can work through this. he doesn't uderstand that it's diff for me. he is ready to move past this Iam not.

if you don't want to give up on him and he doesn't want to give up on you, and you both are willing to work at the relationship and do what's right than i do believe you can make it.

He hit you once,, cried,, said he would never do it again,, the next time it is a little more severe,, you swore you would NEVER let a man hit you,, however, you stayed the first time, second, third, fourth, fifth (get the picture?)It will keep escalating until you wind up in the hospital and you loose the baby you were carrying,, or should I say that "MAN" killed the baby you were carrying and there are no murder laws for what was considered a "fetus" to the courts but I considered her my daughter! Lets see,, are you a fool or not? Let a man try to hit me again,, and see who lives to tell about it!

I can't walk out until I can say I gave it a chance and for whatever reason i must leave.

I guess Iam taking the risk of getting hit again. If it happens again I promise I would leave, I know I would.

I beleive in second chances.

FYI, I was in the hospital 6 weeks and could not have more children.... Please be careful,, it is something you will have to live with for the rest of your life.. if he doesn't kill you!

You are rite and thats what scares me Iam stuck between a rock and a hard place.

NO!!!!!!!!!!!!you cant make it. you already gave it you best, 2 children and abuse againt you toward your body and who know about your mind. get out if you still can. liz

Sometimes I want to leave, but other times I want to stay.

It's almost been a month already, and I still dwell on it.

I really question if my actions are foolish.